Why can't either Candy or Tori Spelling just pick up the damn phone and call each other? You know why? Because then there wouldn't be any drama both of these women love the drama and the special kind of attention that goes with drama. In the latest episode, Tori incited Candy to come to Stella's first birthday party. According to Tori's people (read Dean), Candy knew that the Oxygen people would be there and even had the photo releases sent over to Candy's house a week in advance. At some point, Candy decided she wanted to make sure she wouldn't be on camera and Tori agreed.
Now, according to Candy's people (read butler), Candy found out that Oxygen was going to be there filming and all she really wanted was a private meeting with her daughter and granddaughter and that wasn't going to be possible with all of the cameras around. She wanted to meet Steel and see Tori but because Tori insisted on having the cameras there it just wasn't going to happen.
Meanwhile, Tori was sitting by the front door all day waiting for her mom to show up because no one told her mom wasn't coming. It turns out mom sent and e-mail about an hour before the party, but Tori didn't see it until after the party.
This thing is just all for show right now. They both know they could end it in a second but the drama and the fighting and the attention keep them going and going and going.