Friday, May 07, 2010

Your Turn

It is that time of the year. Mother's Day. Now is your chance to wish your mother a Happy Mother's Day, or not, depending on your personal situation. Perhaps you wish to thank someone who acted as a mother. Whatever you want, say it here.

I of course will be doing all the cooking on Sunday while my mother enjoys her George Clooney film fest. It is also the one time a year when she gets really hammered which is always funny. She deserves it though. Can you imagine having to live with me and my dad. Brutal.

36 comments:

KLM said...

Happy mother's day, everyone! This is my second year as a mom - hoping maybe my husband remembers because last year he sure didn't.

I hope everyone has an enjoyable weekend!

.robert said...

I was born on Mother's day.

annie cat said...

Happy Mother's Day to all the Moms out there!

lifeiscrazy said...

This is my first Mother's Day without a Mom, as she passed away 3 months ago today. I have been dreading this weekend as other than Easter, this is really the first big event day without her. I didn't want to celebrate at all, but as I myself am a mother of two, I am pulling myself together to let them celebrate me. Cherish your Moms whenever you can and let them know how much you love them, because you never know when they won't be around anymore. Even though I am supposedly a grown-up, I never knew how much I really still needed my Mommy.
On that depressing note - wishing all my fellow CDANers a wonderful Mother's Day!

Ms Cool said...

Happy Mother's Day! lifeiscrazy - I am so sorry for you and anyone else who has lost their mother.

This is my 6th Mother's Day and I am so grateful. I can't remember my life before being a mom. I hope that I can live up to my mom who is the greatest, warmest mother. Outside of my husband, she is my best friend and we talk several times a day. Growing up, I always felt safe and loved. I don't think a child can ask for more than that.

Syko said...

When I lost my mom four years ago, I realized that I had lost the one person on earth who thought I did everything right, who supported me in whatever I did, and always cheered for my team. It's lonely without her. So - cherish your moms, you'll only get one in your life.

Ice Angel said...

Lifeiscrazy-I am sorry for your loss. I, too, lost my mom, but it was way back in 1993. I still do miss her every day and wish she was here to know my kids.

That said, I will wish a Happy Mother's Day to the birth moms of my 3 beautiful adopted children. I always thing of the wonderful gift of life they gave to my children and honor them for their selfless decision to place them for adoption in our home. I treasure every single day with them and am so appreciative of these 3 very brave women.

Ellebee said...

Happy Mother's Day to all.

I want to say thank you to my daughters and husband, without them I would not know what it was/is to be a mother. I would not change it for anything else in the world.

Thank you for everything-all the good times and bad times ...sitting up all night with them when they were sick, laughing with them when they were being silly, and everything else in between, but most importantly, they taught me how to truly love unconditionally.

Pookie said...

we're going to need pictures of the plastered EntyMami. know this.

happy mother's day, cdan!

Melody the First said...

Thanks for the opportunity to point this out, Enty.

At 19, I lost my mom bodily to cirrhosis of the liver. I actually lost her when I was about 9 to the bottle itself. Most of the time, I'm able to put that behind me. But every year, there is some ad or email or something that pops up in my face and says, "Hey, it's Mother's Day! What are you doing for Mom?" as if everyone has a mom. I wish they would put in an exclusion as you did. It would have made me feel a bit less weird.

I'm 50 and my mom would have been in her 80s now, but was a time it was a depressing event, Mother's Day.

Melody the First said...

That depressing message aside, I'm a mom myself and so I say to everyone to whom it applies, Happy Mother's Day.

timebob said...

Thx for the reminder, just mailed my card.

chihuahuense said...

lifeiscrazy, syko, iceangel and everyone else that has lost a mom, I am so sorry for your lost. I am good friends with a few girls that lost their moms and it *literally* makes me cry just thinking about it. I call my mom everyday and we talk about everything. I love her so much! It is amazing how secure a good mom can make you feel, but somehow, I think that a good friend, sister, aunt or grandmother can always step in and do the same if your mom isn't around. Women have such a great capacity to love and it doesn't stop with our own children :) Love my boys, and I hope I get big besos on Sunday :D

Thanks CDaN family~love you all!

chihuahuense said...

oh, and Happy Birthday Robert! I'm sure you were a lovely gift for your Momma to be born around a special holiday for her :)

sunnyside1213 said...

My Mother was a borderline psychotic who drank a fifth of gin a day. Everyday was was a crisis waiting to happen. That said, she was funnier than anyone I know and I miss her everyday.

captivagrl said...

Speaking of mothers, has anyone else viewed the disturbing mother/daughter photo of housewife Teresa and her BABY? She has her INFANT daughter dressed in leopard high heels. You can find it over on dlisted. What a mutha.

sassyyankee said...

I lost my mom Jan. 1 and this will be my first mother's day without her. She was my best friend ... rough year as the brain tumor really robbed us of her long before her body gave out. It will be a hard day but I will thankfully have my husband and two girls to spend it with ... we plan to go to a baseball game.

Happy Mother's Day to all the CDANers.

Wonder said...

Happy Mother's Day to everyone. This is my first year celebrating it as a mom-to-be... (due Oct 12!)

califblondy said...

Happy Mother's Day.

I sure hope mine doesn't bitch and complain all damn day.

There goes my warm fuzzies...

Treesap-Covered Lady, the Humanist said...

Wow, did not expect to cry to today--Happy Mother's Day to CDAN mommies past, present, incubating, and future! Happy birthday, Robert!

Sunday I'm meeting up with my sister and brother-in-law at my parent's house for a cook-out. I'll pick up some flowers (a centerpiece, because I recently found out she prefers them over bouquets), and hound her into letting me know what she wants eat. I think my grandma will be over too whom my daddy will be fussing over.

chopchop said...

Hugs & love to all who have lost their moms. IceAngel, just wanted to say what you wrote was so moving. Thank you for sharing that with us.

I'll be spending Mother's Day with my three little girls & husband, my mom, and my grandma. My grandma is probably the coolest lady ever. Happy Mother's Day everyone!

Beca said...

To all who have lost their moms, you have my deepest condolences.
To all who ARE moms, you have my best wishes for a happy mother's day.
I am fortunate enough to be having brunch with my mother in law and dinner with my wonderful, beautiful, fabulous mother. she wants pizza. how could i say no?

Sherry said...

Happy Mother's day!

We don't traditionally do anything big for mother's day at my house. I always request that I don't have to cook during the weekend. I actually request this most weekends, and most weekend I get my way!

Sunday will be a zoo as my husband gets ready to take off for work. After dropping him off, I suppose I will call my mom and see if she's free for me to visit. I have a card, a movie, and a starbucks card for her. I always feel real awkward around my mom, and this has magnified times ten since my 44 y.o. drunk brother has moved in with her. I won't even ask my kids to go with me - why ruin their day? They don't particularly like anyone in my freak-show family. Yeah, it'll be fun.

amazonblue said...

My mom passed away April 24th, two weeks ago Saturday. She had entered hospice two days prior to her death.

My lovely next door neighbor gave me a copy of a story titled, "My Mother, My Friend", that has really touched me and I'd like to share it with you. It was written by Temple Bailey and published in Good Housekeeping magazine in 1933.


The young mother set foot on the path of life.
"Is this the long way?" asked the young mother as she set her foot on the path of life. And the guide said:
"Yes, and the way is hard, and you will be old before you reach the end of it. But the end will be better than the beginning."

The young mother was happy, and she would not believe that anything could be better than these years. So she played with her children, she fed them and bathed them, taught them how to tie their shoes and ride a bike, and reminded them to feed the dog and do their homework and brush their teeth. The sun shone on them and the young mother cried, "Nothing will ever be lovelier than this."

Then the nights came, and the storms, and the path was sometimes dark, and the children shook with fear and cold, and the mother drew them close and covered them with her arms. The children said, "Mother, we are not afraid, for you are near, and no harm can come."

And the morning came, and there was a hill ahead, and the children climbed and grew weary, and the mother was weary. But at all times she said to the children, "A little patience and we are there."

So the children climbed and as they climbed they learned to weather the storms. And with this, she gave them strength to face the world. Year after year she showed them compassion, understanding, hope but most of all unconditional love. And when they reached for the top they said, "Mother, we could not have done it without you."

The days went on, and the weeks and the months and the years. The mother grew old and she became little and bent. But her children were tall and strong, and walked with courage. And the mother, when she lay down at night, looked up at the stars and said:
"This is a better day than the last, for my children have learned so much and are now passing these traits on to their children."

And when the way became rough for her, they lifted her, and gave her strength, just as she had given them hers. One day they came to a hill, and beyond the hill they could see a shining road and golden gates flung wide. And Mother said, "I've reached the end of my journey. And now I know the end is better than the beginning, for my children can walk with dignity and pride, with their heads held high, and so can their children after them."

And the children said, "You will always walk with us, Mother, even when you have gone through the gates." And they stood and watched her as she went on alone, and the gates closed after her. And they said, "We cannot see her, but she is with us still."

amazonblue said...

Part II

My Mother, My Friend:


A mother is more than a memory. She is a living presence. Your mother is always with you. She's the whisper of leaves as you walk down the street, she's the smell of certain foods you remember, the flowers you pick and perfume that she wore, she's the cool hand on your brow when you're not feeling well, she's your breath in the air on a cold winters day.

She is the sound of the rain that lulls you to sleep, the colors of a rainbow, she is your birthday morning. Your Mother lives inside your laughter. And she's crystallized in every tear drop.

A mother shows through in every emotion - happiness, sadness, fear, jealousy, love, hate, anger, helplessness, excitement, joy, sorrow - and all the while hoping and praying you will only know the good feelings in life.

She's the place you came from, your first home, and she's the map you follow with every step you take. She's your first love, your first friend, even your first enemy, but nothing on earth can separate you.

Not time, not space - not death!

kelly said...

I lost my Mom in 92 and the first mother's day without her was horrible. I am a mom of 2 grown children who are just starting their lives and don't have any extra money so I always look forward to their phone calls to say I Love You Mom, it doesn't get any better.

Mooshki said...

Enty, I bet your mom is incredibly proud of how you turned out.

I don't know what I'd do without my mom. She gives me constant support, friendship, and unconditional love. Pretty amazing! I feel bad for anyone who doesn't have a mom like mine. She's the best!

skeeball said...

I lost my mother 26 years ago, when I was 26. My father had died a year and a half earlier. My kids were babies at the time, and I am so glad she got to see them. Unfortunately neither of my parents saw my brothers and sisters kids. My mother was such a lady and was gracious and kind to everyone. I think she just couldn't be here without my father. I am soo lucky to have had the parents that I did, I always felt unconditional love and unwavering support from both of them. There are still days all these years later that something happens and I think "I have to call Mom and tell her that" Then I feel the loss all over again, but most the time I remember them with gratitude and love. Sorry for the rambling post, but I am so glad I finally put that in writing somewhere.

captivagrl said...

Amazonblue- Thank you for sharing, that is beautiful.

chihuahuense said...

I am SUCH a sap.

You guys are beautiful writers. Thank you for sharing.

chihuahuense said...

oh, and here's my mom's Etsy site:

www.kav122.etsy.com


sorry, I had to do it.

surfer said...

I, like many above, also lost my mother (father, too), so I know how difficult Mother's Day (and Father's Day) can be without them around. I'm sure you all know that those we loved are always with us.

To Amazon, I'm so sorry; your loss is so recent and you must be feeling very numb. That was an extraordinary story you posted, which I will copy and save.

To Skeeball, our mothers sound like they were cut from the same cloth. When you wrote about how your mother couldn't be here without your father, you could have been writing about my parents. My mother died three years after my father, and they died at the EXACT same time of day. My mother swore up and down that she never dreamed. Two weeks before she died she told me had a dream about my father, and he said to her, "Come, it's time." She was so ready to go, which made me so profoundly sad. But I am strong, like she was, and whenever I start to feel a little low, I think how lucky I was to have her as a mother, and for as long as I did, as I know that not everyone is that fortunate.

To all those who have their mothers, and/or are mothers themselves, happy, happy Mother's Day.

captivagrl said...

***Chihuahuense- I love your mom's stuff, really cool. I'm thinking about a custom order. I'll be in touch.

chihuahuense said...

aww thanks :) She can do anything.

MCH said...

aaah, this thread got to me. Amazonblue, those were really nice stories.

Sorry for everyone's losses. Sad and hard to read.

Happy Mother's Day to all the CDAN reader mommys!

captivagrl said...

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY!!!