What Do You Think?
When I first read about the woman who disappeared in Aruba and the fact that the guy she was with has been detained for her disappearance, I had to read the story several times. The reason was every article or story I have seen mentions the woman's boyfriend. He is quoted as saying that he misses her and wants her back safe. It confused me because she went to the island with the guy who is being questioned in her disappearance and they did not exactly go as platonic snorkeling buddies.
Apparently Robyn Gardner was dating this guy back home for two and half years. Got it. At the same time she was dating the guy at home she met this other guy online on a dating site. At some point she decided to go to Aruba with the guy she met online and Robyn and her long term boyfriend got into an argument about it. Umm yeah. The boyfriend also said that Robyn called him before she left and said that she loved him and they would work it out when she got home.
I think this is tragic and the guy she went with has a history of domestic violence with all of his former girlfriends and wife. My question is this though, would you want to be with someone who you have been dating for over two years and they go on vacation with someone they met on a dating site? I think the guy in Aruba did it, but I would also check the travel records of the boyfriend. He just got jilted and knew he was going to get cheated on. He was not upset about it?
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Another woman disappears in Aruba??!!
I am too old to understand this kind of relationship cause my answer is no I would not tolerate that s--- for a second. Is is that whole generation and their dating patterns or are these two exceptions? I also would NEVER go to Aruba of all places, or anywhere else for that matter with some guy I met online.
That's a pretty odd scenario. Somehow I feel like we don't have the full story.
I wouldn't tolerate my boyfriend going on a trip with someone he met on line but I wouldn't kill him. I'd just dump him and not look back.
This is really weird. The entire scenario is weird.
Count me out of vacationing in Aruba for a while.
My guess is that she was using the old guy as a sugar daddy and he was providing much more than just a trip to Aruba. Maybe once she got there she decided not to fulfill her side of the agreement and he got mad.
Interesting: they were staying in the same resort as Natalee Holloway.
@ Lauren
I can't compute it either. Too many disconnects and things that don't logically make sense.
Uhhhh, yeah. I won't be visiting Aruba anytime soon, either.
Note to all white blonde women visiting Aruba: Do not stay in the same resort as Natalee Holloway!
That is all.
I read that she and her bf had a fight and broke up before she decided to take off to Aruba. It's a terrible story, but still going on a trip with a relative stranger?
Me too, SusanB.
Yeah, this is why you don't go on trips with strangers.
I was confused too when I heard this on GMA...
Woman goes missing while vacationing in Aruba with a guy she met on the internet, guy is now being detained, but now here's an interview with her boyfriend?
Creepy, and I just don't get it...confused.
I read that she and the long time boyfriend got into a fight and broke up. She then meets other guy on line and goes to Aruba with him. She is texting long time boyfriend while there. Maybe trying to make him jealous? New guy says that they went snorkeling or something. He has more than one domestic violence incident in the past. Same Hotel as Natalie's, just crazy. No body either. I think these blondes are being sold as sex slaves or something. It just makes no sense. Sad for her family and friends and that she made some incredibly bad choices that might have cost her life. : (
Aruba would be on the bottom of my list to go on vacation with some random man I met on a dating site. Ladies, use your heads! Meet in a coffee shop. Do a background check. Don't go to a secluded spot with crappy detectives.
Poor woman.
Well that's just odd all around and my heart goes out to her and her family, hope they find her and it doesn't end like Natalee Halloway...
Oh and count me in the group of not going to Aruba anytime sooner or later...
oh please, Aruba isn't responsible for a few women's bad decisions. they are responsible for fucking up the Holloway case and being a bit corrupt but they didn't kill her.
if you're going to get worked up about dangerous destinations,take Mexico off your list. 40 000 people have been murdered there since 2006 and their gov't does not care if you're a tourist or drug runner.
Yeah, I'd pick Aruba over Mexico any day!
I recall sometime in the last year some of y'all were saying Mexico should not be slagged off on just because of a few unfortunate areas...but I would not want to even fly over Mexico right now!
But back to the topic at hand, I suppose the overall lesson is not to go ANYwhere--even down the street--with an effing stranger, for starters. Poor woman, but WTH was she thinking?
^Yeah. And naturally I was the one being told I was cray-cray for saying that.
*eyeroll*
Seems like Aruba has become the go to place for killers.
Meh. I'd go to either Aruba OR Mexico if the price was right! I'll take my chances.
Funny but the Yahoo news story I read said the bf was well aware of the other guy and that it was a 'platonic friendship'. The last comment from the BF was that he was beginning to think maybe it was not platonic...
Hear that Jennifer Love Hewitt? Traveling to meet strange men over the internet is a bone-headed move.
Sugar Daddy
Her relationships are why they have the "It's Complicated" option on Facebook.
I don't want to shame the victim, but I think she was making her living this way. How else do you explain a woman with a long term boyfriend who chats up older men online and goes on vacation with them?
Either way, this is why you should background check the people you meet on online dating sites. Everyone has a past, but not everyone's past contains multiple domestic violence allegations.
Oh, and if I was going to make a lover disappear, I'd totally go to Aruba. Clearly, the Dutch don't have an effing clue how to run a police investigation.
bluebonnetmom said...
I think these blondes are being sold as sex slaves or something.
Very VERY possible. Anyone who hasn't read Not For Sale should pick it up asap. http://www.amazon.ca/Not-Sale-Return-Global-Slave/dp/0061206717/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1313019777&sr=1-2
Joran Van der Sloot was involved in the sex trade. While I do believe Natalee was murdered, I can't say I'd be too surprised if it turns out she's alive & being forced to prostitute somewhere halfway around the world.
Mr. Green did it in the study with the candle stick.
Escort. Seriously. Sugar Baby.
If I went on vacation with someone I met online when I had a boyfriend at home, I don't think that person would actually be my boyfriend for too much longer. That being said, it was probably online boy, not the one back home.
Aruba's probably safe, just don't do anything dumb b/c I have zero faith in the justice system. :)
There don't seem to be a lot of high moral characters in this story. My guess is she is working the next room down from Natalie. Bodies just don't disappear.
From what I have seen and experienced, if you are being abused (beaten, verbal or sexually) the person you would seek to help you out could be a benevolent stranger. The "Daddy" who would protect you in an anonymous (internet) situation makes you prey for the bad people. If any Dear Person has someone who hurts them I urge you to go to a local community outreach site. Church, Foodbank, Library. Please just leave and let it go. There are caring people and places that will help you in the get-along.
So what if Enty was this missing girl?? Would you all change your posts about the "sex worker" posts??
40,000 people killed in Mexico since 2006 averages out to 8,000 a year or 22 per day.
The boyfriend was on the today show this morning. He came off as a total creep, and unworried about her. He said " am I mad at her? Not now when she's missing, but when she gets back I will be"
He also said he never found out she was in Aruba until her family reported her missing, but then said she messaged him telling him there was a change of plans and she was in Aruba instead. He talked about how he knew there was no way she would ever go swimming in the ocean and Matt kind of called him out saying if he knew her so well how did he know nothing about Aruba, if that was put of character for her whose to say she wasn't swimming. Something is definitely sketchy about her and they boyfriend. Theyve been together two years but only exclusively since january His appearance today did not help him
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