tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post125287179003517525..comments2024-03-20T02:18:58.950-07:00Comments on Crazy Days and Nights: Your Turnent lawyerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08658046190988387228noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-84563027915368636142012-02-12T09:34:10.065-08:002012-02-12T09:34:10.065-08:00I had a different opinion about living together wh...I had a different opinion about living together when I was young and stupid. We dated probably about a 1-1.5 years before we officially moved in and it really was more of a financial decision than anything else (if you can afford to keep up two households, go for it!). We were ready and committed. We lived together 2-3 years before getting engaged. Everyone said it would change when we got married. Absolutely zero changed. Everyone is different and has to do their own thing, but I i no way think that LIS (Livin' in Sin, baby!) is a detriment to the relationship.Lelaina Piercehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716872075072627386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-12508530836366969742012-02-10T05:31:09.000-08:002012-02-10T05:31:09.000-08:00After reading all the comments this morning I thin...After reading all the comments this morning I think everyone should read Martha Stout's Sociopath Next Door before getting married. It's a short read. Lots of good info.__-__=__https://www.blogger.com/profile/06294916758950711469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-28953182748578559192012-02-10T04:35:17.801-08:002012-02-10T04:35:17.801-08:00I lived with a bf for 2 years and it was horrible....I lived with a bf for 2 years and it was horrible. I think it helped kill the rlp him acting as a husband me getting none of the benefits of his acting like. I changed my mind now, i would never live with someone before getting married. It gives a whole new dimension to the rlp. it's like a screening process all on it's own.<br />I do resent the comments saying it's retarded to not live with the person first. We have some close minded people on here boy ! anyway, i feel it makes us work harder at the rlp, you get plenty of firsts, the newlywed period is a REAL newlywed period. it's just awesome. My fiance and I are now waiting to move in.aureliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17275350627697379105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-4930133219680973702012-02-09T20:50:15.392-08:002012-02-09T20:50:15.392-08:00I would live with a guy before we got married, but...I would live with a guy before we got married, but we'd have to agree that we would EVENTUALLY get engaged in the near future....he ain't gonna get the milk for free!jgirl828https://www.blogger.com/profile/11217494979901553907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-53918161202826687452012-02-09T18:40:01.345-08:002012-02-09T18:40:01.345-08:00I have always enjoyed my own space and like living...I have always enjoyed my own space and like living alone with my plants and animals. When my husband asked me to move in with him, I told him I had no intention to give up my place were I could have my animals and a garden.....without a long term commitment. Two months later he approached me about a cottage with a fenced in yard, gardens and a fish pond. I agreed, trusting he would respect what I had communicated. One month later he asked me to marry him. That was over ten years ago.....<br /><br />Because I have so many animals, plants and children, if something happened to my husband, I would be very guarded. I am not saying I would not date, I would just want my own space.<br /><br />All that being said, my husband and I joke that we will get divorced and remarry when everyone can marry. I understand that commitment can and does look different for everyone.....to each their own.......jKathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12092309150719168250noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-88356312048758114432012-02-09T17:39:18.683-08:002012-02-09T17:39:18.683-08:00^^ (I'm wouldn't live w/someone again bef...^^ (I'm wouldn't live w/someone again before marriage -especially at my age) and yes my views have changed as I've aged, had to divide assets w/out being married (-which is far worse than when you divorce -in which there are laws to protect you, which aren't there if you are merely living together), etc.El Roy 13 https://www.blogger.com/profile/07743418780897870036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-30977254234696464302012-02-09T17:35:09.035-08:002012-02-09T17:35:09.035-08:00nonoEl Roy 13 https://www.blogger.com/profile/07743418780897870036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-27526721763149276242012-02-09T16:55:09.427-08:002012-02-09T16:55:09.427-08:00I don't know that I'd want to actually liv...I don't know that I'd want to actually live with them, but then again I'm not convinced I'd actually want to get married, either--the older I get, the more I think Katherine Hepburn was right when she said "Men and women should just live next door to each other and visit"! I find I really need my own space and time to myself, and listening to people I just don't get the sense that those things are possible living together, whether or not you're married. I'm sure this explains why I'm still single at my age...Robin the Mad Photographerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05766675938768012882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-923566984746946852012-02-09T16:20:55.186-08:002012-02-09T16:20:55.186-08:00I'd like to know why people think this questio...I'd like to know why people think this question is so offensive? it's not an opinion being stated by Enty one way or another. Jeez. I love y'all but sometimes I think things just get taken too far and literal.<br /><br />That being said, lived with someone and after a year we weren't any further in our relationship so I left. And it wasn't any harder breaking up with someone that I loved just because we lived together. It was fucking hard because I loved him but we weren't growing as a couple AT ALL and I knew it was time to move on. I was also miserable in my life, which I am certain, didn't help our life together.<br /><br />I would live with someone now but I probably wouldn't do it quickly.<br /><br />and I'm sorry, I'm almost 40 and never been married and don't think I will but I want the WEDDING dammit! I want the dress, the pomp and circumstance, the registering, the 'it's all about me' mentality. but at least I know that the wedding isn't a marriage, which is why I haven't had either. :-)<br /><br />And I am a smart forward thinking woman but sometimes it's all about being 10 again and planning that day, the dress, it all.amh.producerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02701273618056284763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-33494723295199673762012-02-09T16:12:50.535-08:002012-02-09T16:12:50.535-08:00So Enty, is the REAL reason for this question ;you...So Enty, is the REAL reason for this question ;you don't know if you should pop the question or just see if she'll live in a basement on a futon??ardleighstreethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13182046463125498379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-48570310223442538062012-02-09T15:30:59.308-08:002012-02-09T15:30:59.308-08:00I lived with my husband eight years before marryin...I lived with my husband eight years before marrying him. No, our relationship hasn't changed but I really like being married. I didn't think I would that is why it took me so long to do it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15193840691818724075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-28348821590392094502012-02-09T15:28:10.233-08:002012-02-09T15:28:10.233-08:00Didn't live with the first husband, if I had w...Didn't live with the first husband, if I had we would have never gotten married. Lived with my now 2nd husband, had 13 years up this week and it will be 8 years married in June. I will always live with someone first. If, however, something happened and I were single, I think I would just date, be intimate, and keep my own place. But who knows, I like to keep an open mind.feraltarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05806620230863318926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-43994016325412317732012-02-09T15:26:50.580-08:002012-02-09T15:26:50.580-08:00At my age and having never gotten married, I don&#...At my age and having never gotten married, I don't see the need to get married. Seems like something that's a good idea for young folks who are breeding. Not that I'm ruling it out, but looks more likely I'd be living with someone without being married than "before being married." :-Dnunaurbizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04933110168892976590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-91624707972914347252012-02-09T15:17:13.307-08:002012-02-09T15:17:13.307-08:00we don't get married in my family. My sisters...we don't get married in my family. My sisters have been living with their "partners" - i despise that term but it will serve - for over 30 years for one and over 20 years for the other. I have been co-habitating for 4 myself. I don't see the point in getting married. We have made a very serious commitment to each other that has been borne out by our actions over the past 5 years of our relationship.zeldafitzgeraldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18342245148818775521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-15858072624089362812012-02-09T15:03:23.992-08:002012-02-09T15:03:23.992-08:00My husband and I had a very brief courtship before...My husband and I had a very brief courtship before we got married and we now joke how we probably wouldn't have gotten married if we had gotten to know each other better *L*. He had lived with girlfriends before but I had never lived with anyone (except roommates). I had to learn. Am still learning. And even though it worked out for us, I say yes, absolutely, live together, have premarital sex, and don't even feel that you have to get married if it's working for you. It's 2012. You can be committed to each other without that piece of papaer!Maja With a Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13273140641643205278noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-66861023613028806012012-02-09T15:00:35.677-08:002012-02-09T15:00:35.677-08:00what Annika said...what Annika said...The Flower Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07200507734510812579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-23083462333644519022012-02-09T14:54:35.049-08:002012-02-09T14:54:35.049-08:00@ hannahpalindrome: your comment "i refuse to...@ hannahpalindrome: your comment "i refuse to meet parents until i have a ring on my finger" probably explains why your hand is sans engagement ring because that statement is just obnoxious.<br /><br />if a couple plan on having children then there should be some law that states that the couple must first raise a puppy together without breaking up before the couple is allowed to have children.erin z.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13598832699993486854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-35775034057514877972012-02-09T14:30:59.302-08:002012-02-09T14:30:59.302-08:00Not only would I do it but I have lived with someo...Not only would I do it but I have lived with someone before marriage. My view hasn't changed. You can be committed and not be married. I think people get married way to quick.Janet296https://www.blogger.com/profile/14697269977020426213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-49363523893336899992012-02-09T14:16:32.179-08:002012-02-09T14:16:32.179-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.hamster partyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17659701587796285977noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-46082363656036342862012-02-09T14:09:52.875-08:002012-02-09T14:09:52.875-08:00never been married...never lived with anyone outsi...never been married...never lived with anyone outside of my parents. no room mates since moving out either.<br /><br />i'm f-cked.<br /><br />someone pray for the rockstar if we ever move in together.jaxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13009699859972498455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-43531904927265286702012-02-09T14:05:08.811-08:002012-02-09T14:05:08.811-08:00My lovely state of Washington just legalized gay m...My lovely state of Washington just legalized gay marriage (just waiting for the governor's signature), so I'll have to get back to you on this one.Casual Observerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10255494368869636943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-58193727495693675642012-02-09T12:57:11.716-08:002012-02-09T12:57:11.716-08:00I'm in this situation now, with our wedding da...I'm in this situation now, with our wedding date later this year after about 3 years of cohab and 4 years of dating. Definitely a good decision for us both, it's allowed us to sort out various issues before making it permanent.Comma Chaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12414730895553197959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-71815201207170651322012-02-09T12:40:45.625-08:002012-02-09T12:40:45.625-08:00I was married once, but it didn't work out. I ...I was married once, but it didn't work out. I then moved to Seattle where I met Cory.<br />I've been friends with my "old man" for almost 20 years, we've been living together (as friends first) for about 18 years, we've been in a relationship for 16 1/2 years, and engaged for about 12 years. When we first got engaged, I was still technically married although we'd been separated for more years than we'd been married. I used to dream about marrying Cory, but once my divorce was final and it came down to it, YES, my thoughts changed; I'm NE'ER getting married again, not e'en to this wonderful man who loves me so...<br />I know I'm an idiot, but if it ain't broke...GoGohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05964767136448252240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-19978316088048609212012-02-09T12:24:00.925-08:002012-02-09T12:24:00.925-08:00Marriage is so out dated.
ObsoleteMarriage is so out dated. <br /><br />ObsoleteWorstcompanytoworkforhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10020572074286609026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-89914273197341639572012-02-09T12:14:25.564-08:002012-02-09T12:14:25.564-08:00My father told me not to get married: To make my o...My father told me not to get married: To make my own money and shack up.megs_pvdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02970532021940027931noreply@blogger.com