tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post163302121215938535..comments2024-03-20T02:18:58.950-07:00Comments on Crazy Days and Nights: Vanessa Williams Says She Was Molestedent lawyerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08658046190988387228noreply@blogger.comBlogger80125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-66159372165029021332012-04-08T10:49:11.350-07:002012-04-08T10:49:11.350-07:00Who cares if it's true or not? It's a trag...Who cares if it's true or not? It's a tragic occurance regardless. I don't see the point in speculating.<br /><br />This shit happens all the time and needs to be stopped.<br /><br />www.beyondborders.orgzombiecrushhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07975724408267334187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-51249074605023136282012-04-08T10:14:57.170-07:002012-04-08T10:14:57.170-07:00Hi @Himmmm, welcome back. :} Got lucky this time...Hi @Himmmm, welcome back. :} Got lucky this time, heh. Thank you everyone for the sweet thoughts & concerns - grateful for no fatalities!<br /><br />Happy holiday to those celebrating!DixieTheNoble82https://www.blogger.com/profile/13960868096803644372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-20163116775347065052012-04-08T05:46:25.969-07:002012-04-08T05:46:25.969-07:00I actually avoided this post because its so sad re...I actually avoided this post because its so sad reading about things like this but I completely believe her. Memory suppression is real, I have one family member who was molested as a child and didnt remember for years and another who still hasnt(that we know of). For everyone that revealed a similar incident my heart goes out to you and Id never say just let it go. Never could it be that simple but I hope everyone finds some peace & happiness now :) *going off to cry about how sick the world is*Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12281997388248734483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-36131897987695757642012-04-07T19:10:48.310-07:002012-04-07T19:10:48.310-07:00I experienced the remembering of a repressed memor...I experienced the remembering of a repressed memory about 12 years ago while working the graveyard shift. I was doing my job and wham out of nowhere I had this vivid memory replay in my head of a specific thing that happened to me when I was molested as a child. I had always remembered being molested but had not remembered this specific thing. It was a bit shocking and very emotional. Has not happened since thankfully.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-58917259741889650732012-04-07T15:36:50.162-07:002012-04-07T15:36:50.162-07:00As so many here, I was molested by a male relative...As so many here, I was molested by a male relative when I was little. I was told not to tell, I didn't.<br />Later, when I was older and realized what had really happened I didn't tell because my dad would have been in jail for murder.<br />I've spent thirty years avoiding every single family gathering that this pervert might attend.<br />I have told cousins and such who have female children to have them keep their distance.<br /><br />@Himmmm, welcome back.<br /><br />A memoir would be the logical place for this story. It is her life after all.Del Riserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05888232751380214205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-55700554077211509852012-04-07T14:14:05.711-07:002012-04-07T14:14:05.711-07:00How can people say "move on". When your ...How can people say "move on". When your whole world is affected by abuse. In order to heal you need to remember and then forget. And that means to hate, to feel sad etc. Then you can move on.Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04584286404389159545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-30108818855096861342012-04-07T12:28:06.384-07:002012-04-07T12:28:06.384-07:00yes when i was a kid i remember a few things that ...yes when i was a kid i remember a few things that would be considered molestation, but it was with other kids, friends my age, etc...we were kids tho? but, its not like i wanted too..ughh who knows!??Poisonfawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266336203426664282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-75067920218036684702012-04-07T12:11:25.597-07:002012-04-07T12:11:25.597-07:00@himmmm we missed you, glad to have you back!@himmmm we missed you, glad to have you back!MizCaramelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06431728043159581057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-25144855075355084262012-04-07T11:50:32.368-07:002012-04-07T11:50:32.368-07:00I don't get why memory repression is so unbeli...I don't get why memory repression is so unbelievable. I was molested as a child by a family member, and I always knew that, but somehow forgot many details for many years.<br />Many of those memories came rushing back during intimate moments with my husband.<br />I think that as a child your are more easily able to set memories aside and move on with your day to day life.<br />You have an active imagination and so many distractions. You also do not have a sexual context as a child.<br />I believe many people recall these encounters when their life gives them sexual context to compare the experiences.<br />One is wanted, one is not. Your partner touches you in a way you like, then you remember having that feeling before, but uninvited.<br />If you haven't had this experience, thank your lucky stars and shut the eff up about someone's experience.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06216980153184487738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-90096405332475887612012-04-07T10:41:17.314-07:002012-04-07T10:41:17.314-07:00anyone want to learn more about how twisted hollyw...anyone want to learn more about how twisted hollywood is google esoteric kitten here is a link to her blog, (also psuedo occult)<br /><br />http://bigscreendeception.blogspot.com/<br /><br />sorry to post links here, but the truth is worse than you thinkPoisonfawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08266336203426664282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-36052092776228091942012-04-07T10:26:22.517-07:002012-04-07T10:26:22.517-07:00So anyone who 'played doctor' in their chi...So anyone who 'played doctor' in their childhood was molested? What if the gal that messed with Vanessa was 10 not 18? Not so bad then?B626https://www.blogger.com/profile/05878165569000857168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-16624990433530118392012-04-07T08:57:39.387-07:002012-04-07T08:57:39.387-07:00sorry, typing between Easter Egg hunts with hyper ...sorry, typing between Easter Egg hunts with hyper girls tugging on me lends to a bit of rambling.BigMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15027985085179251603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-18327781885304777782012-04-07T08:56:24.471-07:002012-04-07T08:56:24.471-07:00@Mother - no big, I probably should have read it m...@Mother - no big, I probably should have read it more carefully. I think in my mind I thought I had done something wrong or "naughty" so I just didn't think about it. I think there is a fine line between experimentation, games gone wrong and flat out abuse. Because of that, kids tell themselves something that will explain it all to their young minds. When they get older, something might reveal to them the truth of it. Like when your parents tell you "Sparky" went to live on a farm. That works when your 6 but when you hit 20 something and a friends child's pet dies, you might remember your own pet and in that instant know Mom and Dad lied to you. Coping skills as a child do not always translate well into adulthood.BigMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15027985085179251603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-71685862875471927502012-04-07T08:34:39.614-07:002012-04-07T08:34:39.614-07:00@ BigMama - thanks for sharing. I meant 'big ...@ BigMama - thanks for sharing. I meant 'big deal' in your head, not as in making a scene about it, my apologies for not being even remotely clear (ahem, I too had hit the sauce when posting). I was more referring to finding ways to justify it so you're weren't actually a victim, does that make sense? I think I did that my entire life and was just wondering if others had.<br /><br />Here's hoping there was no hangover. :)Mother Campfirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03618909293106371912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-31717558967713738392012-04-07T08:28:32.117-07:002012-04-07T08:28:32.117-07:00I second that, It's just U. Thank you, BigMama...I second that, It's just U. Thank you, BigMama.Frufrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11872946857799641050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-72181867262426122382012-04-07T05:23:44.427-07:002012-04-07T05:23:44.427-07:00Wow!!! That's like reading my life. You've...Wow!!! That's like reading my life. You've given me some food for thought.<br />Hope you are well and happy now.xIts just Uhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06401116553010240300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-81351645205558320352012-04-07T02:24:52.533-07:002012-04-07T02:24:52.533-07:00A repressed memory can be triggered by a random ev...A repressed memory can be triggered by a random event. You try so hard subconsciously to bury an event but it may resurface at any time. This has happened to me.<br /><br />I think she is awesome !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-5809825937180113272012-04-06T20:52:51.166-07:002012-04-06T20:52:51.166-07:00Warm Fuzzies! *hugs and kisses*
Still havent fou...Warm Fuzzies! *hugs and kisses* <br /><br />Still havent found the chocolate though, might have to raid the "pre-Easter" stashBigMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15027985085179251603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-1699809592125189272012-04-06T20:45:51.036-07:002012-04-06T20:45:51.036-07:00Amanda Bynes is absolutely adorable. I wish her w...Amanda Bynes is absolutely adorable. I wish her well & will keep her in my prayers along with all of you...love & light Enty. Thanks for keeping us thinking & exchanging thought & ideas.Urban Rosebudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17977418276864756345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-61315742111458839822012-04-06T20:37:29.220-07:002012-04-06T20:37:29.220-07:00Much love to you BigMama! So many of us are so br...Much love to you BigMama! So many of us are so brave...we go through it, dust ourselves off, put our clothes back on, get up & deal with life. Good thing some are speaking up to shine the LIGHT on this TRADITION. Unfortunately, for many families, molestation is a way of life....passed down from generation to generation..Urban Rosebudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17977418276864756345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-88579321074106854122012-04-06T20:31:41.058-07:002012-04-06T20:31:41.058-07:00You are a beautiful spirit. Hugs to you for bring...You are a beautiful spirit. Hugs to you for bring so brave. Oftentimes we judge others, when the best response is usually compassion..even if someone lies about being molested, underneath it is an ill person who hates themselves. Help or space is what they need, sans judgement. Vanessa Williams has been through quite a bit & is still as beautiful as ever.Urban Rosebudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17977418276864756345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-13552250740645005092012-04-06T20:05:25.629-07:002012-04-06T20:05:25.629-07:00Big mama, sending you a hug tonightBig mama, sending you a hug tonightEGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17826088334181720450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-81114675702403847592012-04-06T20:03:49.532-07:002012-04-06T20:03:49.532-07:00@Kimbo - awesome
@Robin - Good Luck girly!
@Mothe...@Kimbo - awesome<br />@Robin - Good Luck girly!<br /><br />@Mother= please excuse the rambling but I am kinda drunk (kids asleep, long frickin work week from hell, I deserve it.)<br /><br />I don't think I made a big deal out of it. Fact is, after that day I didn't talk of it again until tonight. Yeah, it was a wierd bunch of experiences. However, what it "taught" me was to be basically submisive and let someone else run the show, it also taught me that I was an object. I know that sounds pat, but it is what it is. My home life was great but not ideal. Is anyones? But I learned that it was all a game. Unfortunatly for me, that game was that someone else always makes the rules. It wasn't until that day that I realized it was ok to say "hey, I'm not ok with that". However, I was an adult and had alot of baggage by then. I will probably never think of this again after today, hopefully. It isn't like it is a traumatic thing in my mind, but more like a reason I made some dumb ass decisions. MY DECISIONS< I know they were ultimatly mine. Just because we are accountable for what we do, doesn't mean that what shaped us isn't valid. I will watch my girls carefully and take those lessons with me. But no, I didnt make a big deal out of it then and I don't now. Please excuse the rambling, off to search for chocolate now. :) It's close enough to easter and I think I deserve it. <br /><br />peaceBigMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15027985085179251603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-10522241512527213482012-04-06T19:55:59.304-07:002012-04-06T19:55:59.304-07:00Thanks, robin, and maybe you'll share a recipe...Thanks, robin, and maybe you'll share a recipe or two also!EGBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17826088334181720450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-3609689108048887982012-04-06T19:42:52.481-07:002012-04-06T19:42:52.481-07:00Regardless of timing or motivation, the simple fac...Regardless of timing or motivation, the simple fact is ms Williams is recounting a very painful time in her life. Maybe it is part of her healing and maybe it gives her some power back. Sexual assault on kids is one of our country's dirty little secrets. I am not shocked there is a cottage industry of pedophiles working with kids in hollywood. But I applaud those of you who have shone the light. I have to wonder about the report of Amanda bynes today and what role these creeps played in her life. Hi Himmmmmm glad to know you are watching over things and taking care of your businesskjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02902589014261146987noreply@blogger.com