Comments on Crazy Days and Nights: I Don't Understand

i love her. always have. and she's absolutely righ...

2008-10-09T18:07:00.000-07:00

i love her. always have. and she's absolutely right, her personal life is her own business.
she did the same thing in the beginning when she became the new jenny craig spokesperson. instead of her ads being about the weight loss, they were about "getting healthier". i thought that was kind of cool.
of course now that she's really showing it, the ads say she's lost 20lbs, but the ads aren't in your face every ten minutes like kirstie alley's were.

i just wish i knew where she got some of her red carpet dresses.
gee, i went off-track, didn't i?

Over all I like her. Once I've decided I like some...

2008-10-08T19:58:00.000-07:00

Over all I like her. Once I've decided I like someone I kind of give them a lot of lee way. Whatever she's doing is what she feels is best for herself. I reserve judgement and lend support if at all necessary or desired when it comes to people who get a nod and a "Hello" from me. If she starts talking stupid shit about antidepressants or starts shilling children for her fame then I'll be the first to be on her lawn with some water balloons. If I can find her lawn. And if I can get off work. And if I really have nothing better to do.

Add me to the "discussing the topic in general, bu...

2008-10-08T16:45:00.000-07:00

Add me to the "discussing the topic in general, but not her own sex life in particular" crowd. If she is indeed a lesbian, I wish she'd come out, but I do understand that it is (still) a lot harder for people of color. Perhaps she figures that, since Jodie Foster was also not willing to discuss her personal life for year, and people pretty much figured out the truth anyway but didn't care that much, she can do it, too?

As someone else observed, at least she's not using a merkin or being hypocritical by being a raving homophobe (those latter people should be outed IMNSHO), so it's really up to her as to whether she comes out or not. Whatever she decides, I wish her well...

I'm with the reasonable folks here. The Queen was...

2008-10-08T16:06:00.000-07:00

I'm with the reasonable folks here. The Queen was saying she will discuss the general topic, as in how being gay affects life in general, how she feels about gay marraige, the difficulty of being gay in H'wood, etc. I don't think she's suggesting that she's going to sit down and start to speculate about who might be gay. Give the lady a break, she seems to have some class.

Sylvia, I don't know what it's from, but your icon...

2008-10-08T15:52:00.000-07:00

Sylvia, I don't know what it's from, but your icon is so cute!

She wasnt saying she was prepared to speculate abo...

2008-10-08T13:40:00.000-07:00

She wasnt saying she was prepared to speculate about someone else's sexuality. As Not On My Dollar said, she doesnt mind discussing the topic - just not her own personal life - and I think thats fair enough. Its not snobby or hoity toity to refuse to discuss it. Its also not saying that homosexuality is something that should never be discussed, but the media has an uncanny ability to make it *all* about a persons sexuality when someone announces they are gay.
Maybe she wants her career to be based on more than just who she chooses to sleep with?

I'm with Molly and Jax. The press and gossip fans...

2008-10-08T12:35:00.000-07:00

I'm with Molly and Jax. The press and gossip fans don't determine others' rights. They already have them. I think she would not have a problem with discussing homosexuality, or supporting someone who is out, but won't discuss her private life. She certainly doesn't need anyone's permission to do this. She just didn't choose her words well. Much ado about nothing.

sexuality is such a gray issue.it is no ones busin...

2008-10-08T11:56:00.000-07:00

sexuality is such a gray issue.
it is no ones busines but your own and i dont think that implies it's shameful. to me it implies mind your own fucking business.

of course i am a complete hypocrite
becasue i want to out everyone.
actually no, i want to out the lying cheating mofos who claim to be straight at every opportunity and then are calling up gay escorts while the wife is at the PTA meetings.

Xlent!

2008-10-08T11:46:00.000-07:00

Xlent!

Good Golly Miss Molly or Lucille?Tutti frutti.

2008-10-08T11:42:00.000-07:00

Good Golly Miss Molly or Lucille?

Tutti frutti.

Good Golly Miss Molly or Lucille?

2008-10-08T11:36:00.000-07:00

Good Golly Miss Molly or Lucille?

little richard wrote an autobiography that is "ver...

2008-10-08T11:32:00.000-07:00

little richard wrote an autobiography that is "very" detailed and scandalous. he leaves little to one's imagination. if i am not mistaken, he's only slept with one woman in his life.

I agree with Molly & QS. The only highly visible ...

2008-10-08T11:29:00.000-07:00

I agree with Molly & QS.

The only highly visible openly gay African American I could think of is Andre Leon Talley. Has Little Richard ever come out?

lol@euf. Clay is such a Drama Queen as far as I se...

2008-10-08T11:19:00.000-07:00

lol@euf. Clay is such a Drama Queen as far as I see it.

I think if QL is gay she should come out as the first African American and be proud about it.

Maybe Will Smith will follow LOL.

I think that if she is gay, and doesn't want to co...

2008-10-08T11:18:00.000-07:00

I think that if she is gay, and doesn't want to come out publically, she shouldn't be pressured into doing so. Nobody should. Coming out should be a personal choice...I agree that it would be a good thing if she did, but if she doesn't want to - fine!

I agree with Molly. When I read it I took it to m...

2008-10-08T11:13:00.001-07:00

I agree with Molly. When I read it I took it to mean that she doesn't have a problem discussing homosexuality in general, but she's not going to discuss her particular situation. That being said, I'd much prefer someone to say "I'm not answering that question about me" than to lie and say "I'm not gay." when they are. (Eyes looking at Clay Aiken.)

someone's sexual orientation is their personal bu...

2008-10-08T11:03:00.000-07:00

someone's sexual orientation is their personal business. i do not believe that any of them owe it to anyone to say what they are...unless they are going to become intimate.

HOWEVER, she should not discuss other's orientation, BUT i will give her this...

she does not "front" with menfolk.

what shelly bean said.

2008-10-08T11:02:00.000-07:00

what shelly bean said.

...my bold text is what I think she left out

2008-10-08T11:01:00.000-07:00

...my bold text is what I think she left out

she should have just said "none of your goddamn bu...

2008-10-08T11:00:00.001-07:00

she should have just said "none of your goddamn business" and left it at that.

I read it as: "I don't have a problem with someone...

2008-10-08T11:00:00.000-07:00

I read it as: "I don't have a problem with someone discussing the topic of somebody being gay, but I do have a problem discussing my personal life."

People can talk about her; she won't talk about herself. Also makes more sense in context.

i think she stated it poorly and probably meant sh...

2008-10-08T10:58:00.000-07:00

i think she stated it poorly and probably meant she's willing to talk about homosexuality in general terms, she just doesn't want to talk about her personal life. if that's what she meant, it makes sense.

and if she doesn't want to come out, that's her business, imo.

Also someone pointed out that coming out for Afric...

2008-10-08T10:56:00.000-07:00

Also someone pointed out that coming out for African American celebrities will definitely end their careers as opposed to other ethnic groups.

No one needs to know if it is going to harm her professionally.

And yes, I know she didn't say "private matter" di...

2008-10-08T10:55:00.000-07:00

And yes, I know she didn't say "private matter" directly, but she did say "personal life". Its still very hoighty toity, as if we're only entitled to what she wants to present of herself, and we're all just awful people for speculating further...but not anyone else, so by all means, carry on.

I don't think that she's saying she'll gossip abou...

2008-10-08T10:53:00.001-07:00

I don't think that she's saying she'll gossip about someone else being gay. I think she is saying she doesn't have a problem discussing the topic of homosexuality as opposed to some of the homophobe people. In other words she wouldn't mind discussing how she feels about Clay Akin if someone were to ask her and I believe she would support him, Ellen etc.

So she is courageous enough to give statements in support of homosexuals but she isn't going to discuss if she's playing for the same team.