Rihanna Wants Order Changed - Wants To Be With Chris
So, I know I posted that Star Magazine thing yesterday where they say Chris Brown violated a court order by canoodling with each other. I saw that The Sun used the term canoodling yesterday to describe another couple. There must be some word a day calendar that all tabloid reporters got for Christmas and the word that came up yesterday was canoodle. It is a great tabloid word because according to the dictionary it could include anything from a hug to sex.
Anyway, Chris Brown is going to be sentenced today for beating up Rihanna and the judge is expected to rule on a request that Rihanna made. What is that request you ask? She wants to be able to be with Chris and so only wants an order that says Chris can't annoy, molest or harass her. Other than that they would be free to get back together. If the judge keeps it as it is now then everytime they get together Chris will be violating a court order.
So, will the judge make it easy for Chris to keep beating Rihanna or will she make it hard? I hope she does the right thing and keeps it in place. So, if the judge does lift the order and allows them to be together and Chris beats Rihanna again, will you have sympathy for her? To me I think the judge has a chance here to do the right thing and break the cycle or at least make it much harder for the cycle to remain in place.
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This just makes me sick. Can I put a filter on my browser to block all news about them? I don't want to hear about it next time he hits her.
Fine! Let her!
Just gives me another celeb to write my favorite new word about:
BAN.
my friend did security for her and said she was a raging bitch with a mouth on her. She said really horrible stuff, it's not an excuse to hit a woman but if she's that much of a bitch I get it.
I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say the judge sticks with her/his ruling. At the end of the day a judge's job is to protect the interest(and safety) of society, so I highly doubt they will be swayed by their "celebrity" or RiRi's desperate need to continue the circle of domestic violence.
she has no sense of self-worth or dignity.
I say the next time he beats her she won't say anything or press charges.
I don't think a ban should be put in place on this one. I think it's important that people see and read about the decision she makes and the consequences of that decision.
I also am glad to see that (in the past at least) everyone recognizes that beaters will always beat, and abusers will always abuse. Don't put up with it, and don't look back. People can change but it takes decades not months.
yes, let's ban them and help society sweep this under the rug further.
skip to the next story if you don't want to read, this is too important to women to just ignore.
This just makes me sad. And it probably happens every day, women going back to their abuser. I believe in forgiveness but how could you possibly forget something like this? It's not like he pushed her or slapped her (not that that would have been in any way OK), he pummeled her! And now this is the message she sends to young women everywhere - that it's OK, I probably deserved it. If they get involved romantically again, there is no doubt in my mind that he will beat her again.
Here's hoping the judge keeps the order in place. Rihanna will still get back with her abuser, but it's something.
And, please let's not bash the victim of the abuse, even though I know it's maddening, just because she has swallowed the bullshit he fed her. Abusers are crafty, manipulative, and very good at getting taken back by the victim.
This is all HIS fault, not hers.
This is sad. Another woman going back to her abuser. I hope she knows what she is doing and is willing to be responsible for the results..... Although I hope everything works out the way she wants, I have serious doubts. Don't ban them, but don't feed into the BS.
Unfortunately I've seen too many people put up with abuse. I keep thinking they will walk away and they don't. It's hard because these are usually kind, caring and smart (when it comes to anything but who their mate is), but you can only hope that one day they see the light and walk away for good.
Rihanna has had time to think about what happened to her personally, but also to think about her professional career which I'm sure she cares about. I will never say someone deserves abuse, but if the order is removed by her own request then it's unfortunately something she'll have to take responsibility for if something happens again...if he doesn't kill her next time. Of course it doesn't help when it seems like half of the industry still supports Chris.
What I'm actually more concerned about are the thousands of kids who see this and will think that this is normal, acceptable, and appropriate behavior. Not the way I want to see a generation of kids grow up. I hope parents will take an active role in teaching them otherwise.
"...only wants an order that says Chris can't annoy, molest or harass her."
That is so stupid. How about an order that he actually has to listen when she blathers without rolling his eyes?
She should be allowed to make that decision for herself. Freedom is what we celebrate. If she does get back together with him then she should immediately lose her endorsement deals with Cover Girl or whomever else she represents that targets women.
I don't care how big a bitch she is...he could always walk away. There is never an excuse for abuse.
wow. is this really true? if so let's hope the judge does the right thing. what a horrible precedent it will set if he allows contact between them again.
She's a victim and she's fallen for what every battered woman falls for time and again, "oh baby I'm so sorry, it'll never happen again, I don't know what got into me, I'll get treatment..." (pick 3 or more of the above and repeat endlessly until it works)
Personally, I think someone should send her a copy of "Burning Bed" along with a can of gas and a book of matches.
Maybe, just maybe, she'll get a clue.
If the stupid bitch wants to perpetuate the cycle of abuse, then by all means let her. No one will care next time he beats the crap out of her because she's cried wolf already.
just proves what i've suspected all along- Rihanna is a fucking idiot.
Can you imagine the response if he beats her again? THAT'S what I wanna know.
Oh, Lordy!
The judge needs to not only keep the restraining order in place, but should also require Rhianna to go through some sort of counseling/psychotherapy (Did Rhianna already do that or no? Because if she did, she clearly needs more). Seems like she's not strong enough to break the cycle on her own - girl needs help.
He's like an addiction for her. Until she reaches rock bottom, she's not going to quit him. For most normal people, having the crap beaten out of you would be rock bottom, apparently it's not for her.
She might be a bitch but he could choose not to date her, instead of beating her up.
This is sickening.
I will explain my BAN comment. Firstly, this is something I think it's obvious we cannot, and are not, ignoring.
We know it goes on and are so helpless to help those who WON'T help themselves--like RiRi, who must be a dumbass.
We apparently cannot help her. We can hopefully help others but not if they look up to POS people like CB and frankly RiRi herself if she is not going to step up to the plate and at least help others (I know that's not her "job").
Seeing Ashton and Demi and Diddy and others photographed with CB this summer having happy-go-lucky celebrity-ness makes me sick.
Demi with three daughters of her own! Now THAT'S sweeping DV under a rug, IMO.
Don't think for a moment I want to sweep DV under a rug or ignore it!
So "ban" is no longer my favorite word. Won't use it again, but gossip just gets hurtful sometimes and this is so often my happy place. Hearing awfulness from morning 'til night gets hard on a gal, sometimes...
Oh, and Lindsay had a very good point--why AREN'T her endorsements crying foul somehow?
Shit on a stick, Cover Girl! Talk about ignoring and accepting the issue!!!
Let her go back to him...and then she can't cry and moan and groan next time he beats the crap out of her. Hey, she went back to it.
Look, she's not financially dependent on him. She doesn't have kids with him. She's not "trapped". There is absolutely NO EXCUSE for her to go back to him. She can pick and choose where she lives, who she's with, and how much money she makes. If she's dumb enough to CHOOSE to go back to him, then she has to deal with the consequences.
Abuser and Abusee always stick together. It will take a lot for her to seek the right path.
I get that she is a victim...to a point. This is a woman with all kinds of support and means for support. She does not have to be with him, and is making the DECISION to be where she is. She is not helpless nor is she uninformed. I do not feel sorry for her. She has all the tools and refuses to use them. I call that stupid.
And, I wholeheartedly agree that if the judge allows them to be in contact, that she should lose all of her endorsement deals. She is a public figure and she needs to be held accountable for decisions which could negatively influence her young and impressionable following.
I don't have a lot of patience who stick their finger in the fire when they've been told it's hot. It is a kind of arrogance and stupidity that will never make sense to me.
*I don't have a lot of patience for those who stick their finger in the fire...
Sorry, I didn't proofread. This kind of thing pisses me off and the fingers fly without warning.
on average, it takes a woman about 7 times to leave her abuser because an abuser uses many coercive means to keep them under the control: physical, emotional, verbal, psychological, and financial are just some examples.
domestic violence is epidemic in this country, and as a society we tend to blame the victim. she is dumb to put up with it. she's dumb to go back.
but it think the women in this country are worth more than that. we can't afford to blame the victim and turn a blind eye.
i really hope the judge does the right thing.
I don't know if I should be sick or pissed off. I worry about the kids who will see this as "normal"
behavior.
Sure, she is financially able to walk away and sure, she is being stupid. Young women are stupid about their boyfriends all of the time. Many young women think they can "save" their man, whether it's from drugs, alcohol, general stupidity, etc.
She probably made this request to the court because she has already been caught with him.
...only wants an order that says Chris can't annoy, molest or harass her. Um, yeah, that is what just about everyone else refers to as adhering to laws.
Eff Chris Brown. Eff Kutcher and Demi-freeze-face. Eff Rhianna, but I hope the judge keeps the order in place. She's too stupid to keep herself out of harm's way, so let the courts do it. Protection orders are violated all the time, but at least these people are high-profile enough that they get caught. Maybe she needs to spend a few hours in jail for her part in violating the order, if the Star's story is valid.
I would not be surprised if Chris initiated the canoodling as a ploy to get Rihanna to ask the judge to drop the order so his public image can be "cleared" by the person who "sullied it", thereby showing that it was all a big mistake.
I think the judge should try to protect Rihanna from herself. If he/she doesn't then I don't think Rihanna will let anyone know if Chris beats her again because it would be too embarrassing. If the ruling does go Chris' way, I think he will dump her very shortly afterwards because his work will be done.
I am tempted to repeat my old adage about hoping the girl gets some therapy. But at this point .. I think it is fruitless.
She is going to end up like Nicole Simpson. Might not be Chris Brown who does it .. but she will hook up with some abuser and he will eventually kill her. Very very sad.
Doesn't the judge have a moral obligation to uphold the law despite this request? What happens if he does worse next time - will the judge be blamed?
Does Rhianna really want to become Cover Girl's best client?
I won't villainize her - even if we think we do, we don't know what goes on behind closed doors. I understand it to an extent - I divorced my husband recently for mental and verbal abuse and having non-consensual sex with me while I was sleeping. I tried to keep things amicable during and after and allowed him back into my life as a "friend" a few times because he still had some kind of mental control over me. There were so many times I felt like he was trying to make me think I was crazy, but really he had started stalking me and it took me longer than it should have to put the pieces together. In order to break that control, I had to get a restraining order, which I fought for very hard. I actually had it granted today and even though my ex didn't show up, I still had to make my case and the judge lectured me because I didn't call the police for every incident I had listed. I didn't bother to tell him that the police, when they showed up for my incidents, would look down their noses at me and tell me to get a restraining order.
It's much clearer (to me) in the case of physical abuse to get away from your abuser. But I also know the power of the emotional and psychological control an abuser can have on his/her victim and it really is difficult to break free of it. I imagine it must be more difficult when the abuse is physical or maybe not. Then add to that fighting to get your abuser to legally stay away from you. Not that this really applies to Rhianna, but it does apply to so many women's situations. Sorry for the rambling, this hit close to home today.
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