I moved several hours away from anyone I knew to purchase a coffee shop in a resort town in Idaho. 29 years old, that's when it all changed. Omg that was scary.
My Dad died 19 years ago and last year my Mom had a rapid onset of dementia which led to her going into palliative care. The day my Mom died, was the day that I became an adult.
Will be 53 in August, but feel like I'm 29 - like there's something big coming juuust around the corner, very soon.
Conservaterian - I too am sorry for your loss. I'm an only, and I've already lost my dad (10 years ago). I will lose my shit when my mom goes. I joke and tell her I'm going first. She doesn't like my morbid humor.
At 30. My career provided a good life, got married, and we bought our first home. Doesn't get more real than that. Conservatarian I'm sorry for your loss.
I'm 40. I'm an adult mostly but still know how to have a good time if we can find a babysitter. We went out drinking this past weekend for first time in a year. I had a good time. Everyone was cool...good music. Lots of pretty college girls. Yes..we got carded once or twice...out of 7 bars we went to. Eat healthy, work out...get sleep. Being an adult doesn't change much..but getting old does.
When I was giving my first child a bath in the tub. I realized that if anything bad happened to the baby, it was my own fault and that I was the one in charge, not my mother.
I feel like it's a staircase process, not an elevator, you don't just reach adulthood. The more steps you take, the more adult you feel. Every few years I look back and think, no I wasn't really an adult then, knowing full well that in a few years I'll look back at the current moment and think the same thing.
It comes & goes. I will always have the heart and the spirit of a child. Which isn’t always a good thing. My mom committed suicide when I was 19. I had to be my own “mom” after that, so maybe that’s when I first got the inklings of adulthood.
When I pissed on that nurse's face in the delivery room.
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ReplyDeleteWell maybe if you stop acting like a racist incel people would treat you like an adult. Stop throwing tantrums and move out of Mom's basement
DeleteI'm 50. Still waiting.
ReplyDeleteYou stole my line-still waiting lol.
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ReplyDeleteI'm hoping it happens by the time I'm 90.
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ReplyDeleteNot sure what that means exactly, but I don't think I'm there yet and that's fine.
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ReplyDeleteAbout 25, 26. Sometimes I still feel like a college student in a mock meeting when I'm at work.
ReplyDeleteI'm 60 and I'm still waiting. I only feel like an adult when I look in the mirror.
ReplyDelete54 this weekend. still waiting.
ReplyDeleteI moved several hours away from anyone I knew to purchase a coffee shop in a resort town in Idaho. 29 years old, that's when it all changed.
ReplyDeleteOmg that was scary.
30 and still waiting. Seeing people older than that saying the same does make me feel better.
ReplyDeleteMy Dad died 19 years ago and last year my Mom had a rapid onset of dementia which led to her going into palliative care. The day my Mom died, was the day that I became an adult.
ReplyDeleteI've felt like a charlatan my entire "adult" life, like the calendar and my spirit have been in an endless power struggle.
ReplyDelete20 my dad died two years before
ReplyDeleteConservaterian-- Very similar story, minus feeling like an adult. Im sorry for the loss of your mom.
ReplyDeleteI'll let you know.
ReplyDelete35. I'm a late bloomer. Much admiration to conservaterian for Taking care of sick parents .
ReplyDeleteStill waiting for that moment.
ReplyDelete67 or 68.
ReplyDeleteWhen I had my son
ReplyDeleteWhen I was 7 and I went to boarding school. It either makes you or breaks you.
ReplyDelete@Zebra Seasoning You posted the EXACT answer I was going to contribute! Lol!
ReplyDeleteWill be 53 in August, but feel like I'm 29 - like there's something big coming juuust around the corner, very soon.
ReplyDeleteConservaterian - I too am sorry for your loss. I'm an only, and I've already lost my dad (10 years ago). I will lose my shit when my mom goes. I joke and tell her I'm going first. She doesn't like my morbid humor.
At 30. My career provided a good life, got married, and we bought our first home. Doesn't get more real than that. Conservatarian I'm sorry for your loss.
ReplyDelete19. Like a normal person, lol.
ReplyDeleteToday everyone has Peter Pan Syndrome & act like a bunch of kidults at 35. It's embarrassing to watch.
Wait. Is that a thing?
ReplyDeleteI'm 40. I'm an adult mostly but still know how to have a good time if we can find a babysitter. We went out drinking this past weekend for first time in a year. I had a good time. Everyone was cool...good music. Lots of pretty college girls. Yes..we got carded once or twice...out of 7 bars we went to. Eat healthy, work out...get sleep. Being an adult doesn't change much..but getting old does.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was giving my first child a bath in the tub. I realized that if anything bad happened to the baby, it was my own fault and that I was the one in charge, not my mother.
ReplyDelete40 when I adopted my son
ReplyDeleteI feel like it's a staircase process, not an elevator, you don't just reach adulthood. The more steps you take, the more adult you feel. Every few years I look back and think, no I wasn't really an adult then, knowing full well that in a few years I'll look back at the current moment and think the same thing.
ReplyDeleteIt comes & goes. I will always have the heart and the spirit of a child. Which isn’t always a good thing. My mom committed suicide when I was 19. I had to be my own “mom” after that, so maybe that’s when I first got the inklings of adulthood.
ReplyDeleteI feel like I have been an adult too long...since I was 16 on my own, damn near 50
ReplyDeleteI'll let you know when I get there.
ReplyDeleteFreebird! I’m so glad to see you’re back and hope you’re doing well.😀
ReplyDeleteSomething changed for me at 26 or so. I stopped feeling like "the adults" were a separate entity.
ReplyDelete48 and still look around for an adultier adult than me.
ReplyDeleteOn my 31st birthday. When my dad told me he had ALS.
ReplyDeleteYes, Freebird, great to see you back, you've been missed!
ReplyDeleteHouellebecqGurl--"kidult" LOL, never heard that one! (Also, might be guilty)
One silly time this adult thing DID strike me was the first time of being called "Ma'am" instead of "Miss," that sucked.
17. My dad was diagnosed with cancer and died six months later. After that, I packed my stuff and moved to NY to go to college.
ReplyDeleteBTW, feeling as if you’re an adult and feeling as if you are your chronological age are two entirely different things. Trust me.
And Hiiiii to Freebird! Have been wondering how you’ve been. Hope you’re settled.
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