tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post46137674716134989..comments2024-03-20T02:18:58.950-07:00Comments on Crazy Days and Nights: The Note That Made Its Way Homeent lawyerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08658046190988387228noreply@blogger.comBlogger80125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-7471603850865182782012-09-15T22:08:24.951-07:002012-09-15T22:08:24.951-07:00I was watching "Extremely Loud & Incredib...I was watching "Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close" last night and simultaneously reading first hand accounts from people that day, just as I always do every year. Thinking of anyone who had to suffer more than a second is just so painful and I didn't even *know* anyone who passed away that day. I just cannot imagine the horror. Lelaina Piercehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716872075072627386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-48567960207141109802012-09-12T20:19:14.256-07:002012-09-12T20:19:14.256-07:00Let's just say that some higher power helped y...Let's just say that some higher power helped you write that note, and you've provided your friend with comfort and closure :)Principessahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17856249576553639455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-67593088300893872632012-09-12T17:41:49.931-07:002012-09-12T17:41:49.931-07:00Andrea. Bless you. It comes at you in waves as you...Andrea. Bless you. It comes at you in waves as you grow older. Sounds like you are pulling yourself out of the abyss. You will feel lighter in the days ahead. There's no time line, remember that. When that wave of grief comes over you, remember that it is but a wave that receeds. If you can learn to live in the present moment, it helps.Agent**ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05494570098813296941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-1001801591389599342012-09-11T23:43:55.738-07:002012-09-11T23:43:55.738-07:00My dad died in a plane crash when I was 11. I was ...My dad died in a plane crash when I was 11. I was not given any specific details about his condition, or why the plane crashed, because everyone on the plane died. I was only told that he died immediately. My mom identified his clothes and said only his lower pant leg had blood on it. I always imagined he died sitting in his seat with his knee cut. I never tried to imagine anything else. <br /><br />As I got older, my pain was unbearable just with the loss. Then I started wanting to know why it happened, and started looking for answers. I received the accident report, which didn't mean much to me. Then my sisters and I found his autopsy report. It was like we were finding him, something from him, something to take away the pain. <br /><br />I was not prepared for what I learned from that autopsy report. I can only pray he died instantly because otherwise he would have suffered a lot. I now suffer PTSD just from reading that (like I didn't already have it from the loss). For about two years after I had terrible dreams about death and seeing mangled bodies. My loss is even worse now that I have this potent visual of his death.<br /><br />I agree with everyone's comments so far, the man's widow would want to have something of her husband's. When you lose someone you'll do anything just to feel close to them again. You tell yourself it doesn't matter what you find out, you just want them back. Unfortunately this may very well trigger the loss all over again when she may have already established her way to cope. <br /><br />xoandreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14233385043706087803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-58281349175066121152012-09-11T23:19:09.683-07:002012-09-11T23:19:09.683-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-56719667793844630912012-09-11T23:14:39.834-07:002012-09-11T23:14:39.834-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-26325042292676827692012-09-11T21:44:58.445-07:002012-09-11T21:44:58.445-07:00I don't think the wife needed to read this. It...I don't think the wife needed to read this. It would have been better for her to go on believing what she did.<br /><br />There are so many sad stories on this day. I was reading about a fireman who found a note in Ground Zero that said: "Today I'm going to be a better, father, brother, friend, son." It was a list of what the guy was going to be. The fireman still cries thinking about it.Henriettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863981614467666363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-87350404990024219332012-09-11T18:08:32.460-07:002012-09-11T18:08:32.460-07:00My understanding is that he wrote a suicide note b...My understanding is that he wrote a suicide note before leaving his living quarters. It was found after the crash. I really don't know te veracity of it all; just seems like something someone would want to unburden themselves of. My aunt really handled it much better than the rest of us-we were really mad at the messenger. She was just heart broken. "/ Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-77857923758494382422012-09-11T17:26:54.744-07:002012-09-11T17:26:54.744-07:00You did the right thing libby!You did the right thing libby!All about Evehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13782533543520649126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-3673978015583576222012-09-11T16:48:25.855-07:002012-09-11T16:48:25.855-07:00Wil!!! It is so good to see you back! I hope you...Wil!!! It is so good to see you back! I hope you are doing well.WUWT?https://www.blogger.com/profile/09302186508670984005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-5531720069042459532012-09-11T15:44:56.328-07:002012-09-11T15:44:56.328-07:00I would not want to know that. I am sorry but I ju...I would not want to know that. I am sorry but I just would be tortured to know my loved one was not killed immediately in that area and suffered the horror of those last few moments. No .. I don't think this note did this poor gal any favors. I think she would have been better off not knowing. <br /><br />Wilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00782102300446155019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-59548276719575166622012-09-11T15:44:32.572-07:002012-09-11T15:44:32.572-07:00Libby, never ever tell her. no good will come of ...Libby, never ever tell her. no good will come of telling her, trust me.<br /><br />Hazeldazelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02156659772185930986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-18702972820561957662012-09-11T15:10:19.499-07:002012-09-11T15:10:19.499-07:00Dulcinea, is there any proof to what the man said?...Dulcinea, is there any proof to what the man said? Hard to believe anyone would lie like that, but people sometimes do. I think your aunt should take comfort in the offical story unless someone can actually show (and not just say) that it didn't happen that way.<br /><br />(Who has time to write a note explaining what he did (killing 7 passengers) while flying a helicopter before crashing it? It seems illogical.) (But, even if the guy's story is true, unless her son was the pilot, it doesn't change that her son died while serving his country.) (And if her son was the pilot, who knows what war horrors he witnessed to push him that far?)WUWT?https://www.blogger.com/profile/09302186508670984005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-11262968807974609532012-09-11T15:07:23.725-07:002012-09-11T15:07:23.725-07:00You just might have saved her life. You did the ri...You just might have saved her life. You did the right thing.BFSkinnerchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13333682010220864498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-32080785343859493762012-09-11T15:06:58.702-07:002012-09-11T15:06:58.702-07:00You just might have saved her life. You did the ri...You just might have saved her life. You did the right thing.BFSkinnerchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13333682010220864498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-36093267205828985492012-09-11T14:51:24.792-07:002012-09-11T14:51:24.792-07:00All your beautiful and heart wrenching stories sho...All your beautiful and heart wrenching stories show that LOVE really does make the world go round.<br /><br /><br />astrogirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11379289458582214755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-71459265557357119582012-09-11T14:48:22.660-07:002012-09-11T14:48:22.660-07:00@Dulcinea: What a terrible story. I too wish he h...@Dulcinea: What a terrible story. I too wish he had kept it to himself. He's so selfish for contacting her. He wasn't even in the plane accident/suicide. <br /><br />A mom of a Vietnam vet who died 25 years ago has to be getting on in age now. How awful that he thought he could unburden himself of a secret at the expense of an elderly woman who lost her son.<br /><br />Not right! Not fitting!Jamie 2https://www.blogger.com/profile/09224429884809285029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-39396703757332492682012-09-11T14:07:26.968-07:002012-09-11T14:07:26.968-07:00Libby, you are a wonderful person, you did the rig...Libby, you are a wonderful person, you did the right thing by letting her have that comfort in thinking he wrote it. kerrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12352740155061891218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-77763521109805806772012-09-11T14:03:53.152-07:002012-09-11T14:03:53.152-07:00My dad's cousin died in a helicopter crash whi...My dad's cousin died in a helicopter crash while serving in the Army during Vietnam. His mom, my great-aunt, was just told the helicopter was shot down, and that is what she believed for 25 years. However, one day a man knocked on her door, and said that he needed to tell her something that had been on his heart all this time. Her son wasn't "shot down" like had been reported; rather, the helicopter pilot committed suicide after leaving a note - he just killed the other 7 people who were in the helicopter with him when he crashed on purpose. <br /><br />I know that guy who told my aunt had dealt with that guilt for years, but I really, really with all my heart wish he had kept that to himself. I feel the same way about this note.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-60698507678947631942012-09-11T13:37:16.541-07:002012-09-11T13:37:16.541-07:00@ Libby - What you did for your friend, however un...@ Libby - What you did for your friend, however unintentional, was beautiful thing. Like so many others have said, you may have been an instrument for a higher being to give your friend peace. Your friend was an emotional wreck and your note may have given her the strength to go on. Never tell. Sometimes holding things back from a friend might be better for the friend in the long run. A true friend knows what one can and cannot handle. You gave your friend peace of mind and that is better than telling the truth (in this instance).Borg Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05099356109933944980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-10327748518496423542012-09-11T13:03:13.406-07:002012-09-11T13:03:13.406-07:00Stories like this really bring it all back, the ho...Stories like this really bring it all back, the horror and humanity of that day. Which is good because we should make every effort to remember. In the end, knowing the truth is better than wondering or, shudder, being left in the dark albeit with the best of intentions. I would choose to know the truth about the person I love even if this resulted in more grief for me personally. I would feel like I owed them that.Amartelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11636450794507517534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-34817732855847441952012-09-11T12:40:57.105-07:002012-09-11T12:40:57.105-07:00Libby, I believe as someone else mentioned that pe...Libby, I believe as someone else mentioned that perhaps the words that came to you to write on that note came from a higher power. You were just the messenger. Don't tell her. <br />As for Randy Scott's note, it would be heartbreaking to receive it and realize what your husband went through, but I'd want to know. And again, the fact that a single piece of paper found it's way back to the widow indicates a higher power at work.Anothergrayharehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13418202347109378436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-770112713677111702012-09-11T12:40:46.010-07:002012-09-11T12:40:46.010-07:00Libby..Agreed...Let her have that last memory that...Libby..Agreed...Let her have that last memory that her husband loved her. Never, ever tell.<br /><br />Personally I'm not sure how much I'd want to recieve a note like that so many years later. That would be opening the wound for me. Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16510274176187658301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-58398427258753314692012-09-11T12:18:54.003-07:002012-09-11T12:18:54.003-07:00Weren't there literally *millions* of pieces o...Weren't there literally *millions* of pieces of office paper floating and swirling around the City after the planes struck the WTC buildings? How amazing that someone found and read the note and it got turned over to the appropriate authorities. <br /><br />@ Libby - I agree with everyone else; don't tell your friend. Mangohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07965963547538386638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-37309174.post-79620074425917114322012-09-11T12:16:58.196-07:002012-09-11T12:16:58.196-07:00Libby - don't ever tell. The only person who w...Libby - don't ever tell. The only person who would be "relieved that the secret is out" is you. If you love your friend? Bear that burden of keeping it to your own grave. It's a little sacrifice that makes a lot of difference to her.<br /><br />On the tower note? Yes, I'd want it. I'd never recover from the event as it is, so having that one last thing even with the horrible truth behind it? I'd say yes. Yndyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00529778757454778509noreply@blogger.com