David Tutera and his husband split. A judge ordered that the couple each will be given custody of one of their twin children. So, the pair will be split forever. Do you agree that twins or any siblings for that matter should be split up in a divorce?
wtf? No.
ReplyDeleteThis will be so damaging to the children. Divorced parents of twins split custody, not the kids. This will be ruinous as any twin will tell you. The judge might as well ordered the kids to death because two selfish gays can't share.
DeleteI was split between paper and plastic.
ReplyDeleteI have never heard of this happening before. It is especially cruel to split twins. I wonder why they can't just have joint custody.
ReplyDeleteJust wait until they go to summer camp!
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DeleteI am laughing so hard the tears came. Perfection!
I am having phone difficulty so forgive me if this was mentioned, but I read on the DM that they did this because each twin had a different bio dad. Ummm, what? How is that possible
Oh, and this sucks. Splitting up multiples is something I would expect from a Gosselin. Get it together, gentlemen!!
Oopsy! Sorry for the echo :)
DeleteSomeone should rent the Judge Parent Trap. Why can't they split custody of both twins? If they weren't twins would they each take just one? Moron.
ReplyDeletehow u split TWINS?!!!
ReplyDeleteTHATS INSANE
I am sure it's for tax purposes --so they can claim a child each. I doubt that visitation has them totally split--I'm sure there is a shared parenting plan in place. NO judge would physically split up children without due cause.
ReplyDeleteI'm a twin and cannot imagine being split from my brother. Wow, what a stupid decision.
ReplyDeleteI'm a twin and cannot imagine being split from my brother. Wow, what a stupid decision.
ReplyDeleteSeriously.
ReplyDeleteOMG! That's horrible. As a parent, I would let the other person have both and get visitation. I can't imagine splitting up any children, esp twins.
ReplyDeleteWhat's the judges name? Can we mount a recall?
ReplyDeleteDisgusting.
ReplyDeleteLegally, that's all the judge could do. Each child went to his biological father. The twins, while they may have grown in the same womb, are not "twins".
ReplyDeleteMy ex wanted to split up our kids...the one he didn't want is now his "favorite" -- people are crazy, this judge needs to be removed.
ReplyDeleteWe know nothing about the kids or their relationship in this case... Or, really, any hypothetical future case.
ReplyDeleteJudges should decide based on specifics unique to each case.
@Lurker Girl, nope, it's true. The twins were conceived via surrogate using donor eggs and the sperm of both men, and each child is the biological child of each of the men. The judge granted the bio father custody of his child. The Daily Mail article is headlined "I'm mourning the loss of a second child" (Tutera).
ReplyDeleteThe babies are half-siblings who shared a womb and a mother. They're approaching three months old so if they're going to be split up, now's the time.
ReplyDeleteIt's not very different from a woman donating several eggs to different families and babies resulting who will never see their half-siblings. I don't think this is a big deal at all. I'd feel differently if the babies were full siblings or if Tutera and his husband had split up after the babies were born, but this fight has been going on since before their birth.
Terrible decision.
ReplyDeleteSiblings are not possessions. They are children who need each other right now.
ReplyDeleteNothing like losing both a parent AND your twin b/c of divorce.
ReplyDeleteI'm completely serious, someone needs to think about the children.
Jesus. What a fuck-up.
Ah. I didn't know they were half siblings. Still, that is awful they're being split up anyway.
ReplyDeleteNot cool at all. =(
ReplyDeleteNo this is awful
ReplyDeleteDont like it either but prob best judge cld do under the circumstances. These babies will never know they are so called twins unless told. Still, a pretty mess.
ReplyDeleteRegardless of conception, these kids didn't ask to be conceived so they shouldn't be split. Why the heck can't they share custody? The parents are assholes for not putting their shit to the side and thinking of the LO's best interests.
ReplyDeletewow--I didn't know they only shared half DNA. That must have been fun to figure out during implantation--knowing that not all of the eggs survive. I'm sure DNA tests were run and all--but still totally shitty to do that to kids. Wonder what "Rent-a-womb" thinks of this...but I'm sure she was paid enough to shut up and go away.
ReplyDeletethat is RIDICULOUS to split twins. How traumatic, and sorry, but that judge really should be ashamed.
ReplyDeleteAgree with Lurker Girl, this is probably done for tax reasons. Was this done in a state where one parent has to be labeled as having primary custody even if it is a 51/49 split? At least I hope this is the case, siblings shouldn't be split up like this.
ReplyDeletemy mom's sister is the biggest POS on the planet.
ReplyDeleteshe had 5 kids, gave the youngest 3 up to the state & kept the older 2.
that shit did not fly w/ my grandparents. they stepped in & gained full custody of 3 toddlers, while they were in their mid '50s & raised them. so my cousins are legally my uncle/aunts.
As a mother of twins, I can't imagine ever splitting them up! Mine are fraternal, and are very different, so as my dr says, they just shared the same space for a while. I don't believe this situation makes these poor children any less twins, and if either one of these assholes gave a damn about these kids, they would do everything in their power to keep these children, suck it up & be civil adults! This seriously pisses me off. I work really hard to be civil with my ex husband for my kids' sake, and will never understand why most people don't!
ReplyDelete*keep them TOGETHER, not just keep them. Sheesh!
DeleteHELL NO!!!
ReplyDeleteHELL NO!!!
ReplyDeleteOk, different dads for each of these newborns but what about the mother, the eggs where from two different mothers as well?
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely NOT. They are children, not a living room set or dogs!! These are people who had children as accessories.
ReplyDeleteOh my God NO! I can't believe that any judge would DO that!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteOkay - I just read the whole story. The kids are fraternal twins. The daughter is biologically David's and the son is biologically Ryan's. So the babies are going with their biological fathers. However, both David and Ryan have said that they want the brother and sister to be in each others' life and they plan to make it so. Not perfect, but better than the headline.
ReplyDeleteWow. Child custody laws are really behind technology. Sad and unfair for the kids.
ReplyDeleteThey are children FFS. NOT the cabin by the lake. Tis judge is an idiot and so are they.
ReplyDeleteThey are children FFS. NOT the cabin by the lake. Tis judge is an idiot and so are they.
ReplyDeleteThis is so massively fucked up.
ReplyDeleteThis is so massively fucked up.
ReplyDelete@interplanet Janet I read the same thing on TDM. Each child is technically each fathers' child. You have two men who provided their sperm to a donor and now they think their kids are property. Way to go, guys. This is a classic example of why people think gays don't make good parents!
ReplyDeleteI have fraternal twins and would never dream of splitting them up. Of course, they are full siblings and not via surrogate or donor eggs.
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