Friday, September 14, 2012

Kelly Rutherford Says Her Son Has Been Brainwashed


Kelly Rutherford was on The View yesterday and says she has spent $2M in legal fees and that she needs to work to be able to keep fighting for custody of her kids. I don't know if she will get another hit show like Gossip Girl. Would she have been wiser to spend some of the $2M and commuter a lot to France? She has a flexible schedule. She was obviously distraught and child custody battles are the worst of the worst. I watched two parents who hated each other go bankrupt fighting for their child for 12 years. The child now needs therapy and the parents squandered millions fighting and can't afford to send their child to school and sold their homes to pay for their battle and the child shuttles between one bedroom apartments. Sometimes it is not about fighting for the children more than it is fighting against your ex. Kelly says that her daughter wants to come back to NYC so of course she is fine but her son who likes it in France has been brainwashed.

30 comments:

ABlake said...

Wait, wasn't she the one who was still breastfeeding her 7 yr old?

She's nuts

Diane said...

Who is she?
Who did she marry?
Whats her story?
Next ...

Unknown said...

This woman really strikes me as a bit off. Maybe it was naming her son Hermes, but there's something I find strange about her.

Cecilia00 said...

She makes more an episode than most do in a year.
She doesn't even need to use that money to see her kids because her ex is required to pay for her travel and lodging several times a year.
She works 8-9 months a year and has several months off for hiatus.
She has regular access.

Many regular non-custodial parents would love to be in her shoes.
If she had info/proof this guy was an unfit parent, she should have brought it into court.
Mothers should have no expectation of full custody when both parents are fit and capable.

MISCH said...

Awful

Ms Cool said...

War of the Roses

Paisley said...

I remember she used her breastfeeding schedule as a way of preventing her ex from having their baby daughter overnight. She said she intended to breastfeed (which would limit his access) for two years. That was before the initial 50/50 custody ruling.

From what the judge said a few weeks ago, she still hasn't put her ex's name on their daughter's birth certificate even though the court had previously instructed her to do so. Plus, her comments are what lead to his visa being revoked. Since he can't reapply for two years or visit the US during this time, keeping the kids in France makes sense. Why should the dad lose all access to his kids because of her actions? She's a nut job who needs to learn how to share.

Del Riser said...

When will parents learn that fighting ad nauseum over the kids doesn't endear the kids to either parent in the long run.

I'm sure she'll be saying sweet and loving things about the dad to her daughter in the states.

Roman Holiday said...

She really seems off! The worst way too, he was good enough to have children with now he is not! NEXT!!!!!

Sherry said...

Something does seem off about this. Our father (3 girls) never took the time to even send a birthday card so she should be quite happy he wants to co-parent. And as much as my mother had her problems she never said one nasty word about out dad. She told us later that actions spoke louder than. She was right. And she just raised 3 girls alone. This trick needs a walk through an inner city and do some "research" or sit her priviledged ass down.

Dee Lurker said...


I just don't see the point in talking about this stuff on the View? Hard to work a sympathy angle on this one. Like, "sucks to be you; now I don't even want to see you in whatever generic RomCom you do goes I'll be thinking about this instead."

All about Eve said...

I understand it is hard not to have your kids with you full time but this woman has the time and money to visit her kids whenever she wants!!! These long battles only make it worst for the kids in the end! What a sad situation for the children.

whocaresnow12 said...

Obviously, some of you don't have kids or aren't a mother. Ask your mothers' what it would have felt like to them if suddenly after being the sole parent to their children they were not just taken from her custody, but also taken halfway across the world away from her. I'm going to bet that if this happened to any mother they would feel like their world had been ripped out from under them, and would often struggle to function. It's not about being able to hop on a plane every 10 days. It's about having the people you would do anything for and give your life for ripped from your life after you've been the only constant in their life since the day they were born.

Lola said...

This woman needs to stfu and start co-parenting her kids instead trying to continue to wreck vengence on their father. I'm sure the judge will quite enjoy her continued public attacks.

Sometimes karma is a bitch and a half.

Lola said...

@whocares...I am a mother and it would suck. However...I wouldn't lie to authorites in order to get my kid's father deported, refuse to acknowledge him as her father or try my damnedest to prevent him from seeing her.

Sometimes in life you reap what you sow. Those kids have every bit as much right to be with their father as her and she tried her best to prevent it.

I don't feel a twinge of sympathy for her. I think she is a bitch and, in the end her kids are going to resent the hell out of her.

caralw said...

I'm going to reserve judgement. There could be a really good reason she doesn't want her kids with this man.

Michael said...

@whocares: You need to do a little research about this case. The father was the primary caregiver when they were together. Why should he lose access to the kids he primarily raised just because he is a man?

Pogue Mahone said...

Kids belong with their mother unless she is truly abusive or unfit,period.

Lola said...

@Pogue, kids need both parents in their lives. Period. To say otherwise is anacronistic, sexist and misguided.

And I say that as a single mother with primary (80/20) custody who wishes my ex could see how his lack of invovement affects his child.

urg8urg said...

I actually saw the interview. Her ex is clearly a criminal, and he is in exile in a country where he has no ties. Dan Abrams was on with her, and he has gone through all the court documents, and he said he was looking for reasons to blame her for the situation, but he couldn't. It's just a clusterfuck.

auntliddy said...

she has to shut up. for the kids sake. move over to france, live next door, work only as u need to. thats what has to be done.

PS said...

It's clear the two parents hate each other, and this is awful, awful situation. But, I am glad for one thing - that parental alienation is HORRIBLE. I think that's what the Court saw happening here. Kelly tried to block Daniel from the kids, based on breast feedfeeding schedule. She ignored custody arrangements and court orders to include Daniel, including putting his name on their daughter's birth certificate. She wanted him cut out of their lives, and the final straw was to have him deported, because their marriage didn't last through the requisite period. He can reapply by virtue of being a parent of two natural born US citizens, but, he has to wait two years. She created the situation, and the judge is probably fed up with her noncompliance and gave her a slap of reap /sow. The son is happy; the daughter will be. Brainwashed? Don't know about that. Seems if they hated the Dad, she would say, see! NOW they are fine. Well, kids, esp this young, don't natural dislike a parent without the other parent's far-too pressuring influence. It's awful. Just awful. My heart goes out to any mother away from her children, but, I think Kelly sadly brought this on herself.

Brenda L said...

I swallowed my pride and my tongue MANY TIMES to continue a "positive relationship" with my ex for the sake of my child. Sometimes you just have to do it.

Michael said...

@urg: I saw that interview too and I have to call bull on the criminal stuff. If his visa was pulled because he was a violent criminal or anything that would put the children in danger, I'm pretty sure Ms. Rutherford would have been able to get her hands on it.

lanasyogamama said...

I'm sure her legal costs are through the roof, but I think she was living large for a long time. She has an enormous collection of Hermes bags and VCA jewelry.

Claire Rousell said...

My sons father took him on holiday, refused to return him despite court orders already in place and basically got away with it all, and I can tell you it is the most devastating, awful thing in the world. My son (now 16) lives 100's of miles away, and yes I see him but the mummy son relationship we had is completly destroyed. Its worse than a death

Claire Rousell said...

My sons father took him on holiday, refused to return him despite court orders already in place and basically got away with it all, and I can tell you it is the most devastating, awful thing in the world. My son (now 16) lives 100's of miles away, and yes I see him but the mummy son relationship we had is completly destroyed. Its worse than a death

audrey said...

To have your relationship break apart is hard...I get that--been there done that. But to bad mouth your partner to your child(ren) is just so unfair--no matter what an ass that person really may be. It isn't easy to switch off that instinct but kids deserve to love both their parents without feeling guilty or bad about it. If your ex is a bad person those children will grow up one day and figure that out for themselves. No one ever said being a mother was easy.

Beta said...

@Claire Rousell omg, that is truly awful :(
a big hug!

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