Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Mindy McCready's Boyfriend Kills Himself

For two years, David Wilson dated and lived with Mindy McCready. That is saying something right there. He also fathered Mindy's youngest child who is just 9 months old. David killed himself with a gunshot to the head in a home that is owned by a relative of David's and is the same house where Mindy tried to hide from the police after kidnapping her oldest child to keep that child away from her parents who have primary custody. David was 34.

53 comments:

Vicki Cupper said...

Wow. :(

Amber said...

I hope she can find support at this time. Preferably some that doesn't come in the form of a chemical/alcoholic substance.

EMB3712 said...

How horrible. That poor child.

maggs said...

Sad, suicide always sad. My 24 yr old nephew, an Iraq war veteran just shot himself a week before Christmas, we are all just devastated. Will forever miss him :(

libby said...

As chaotic as they sound, I wouldn't doubt there was substance abuse to self-medicate, but in the end, Depression KILLS without treatment (and sometimes with lots of treatment, still).

Mental Illness kills people. I know it's hard to see when someone offs himself---but w/ MI, the pain is so much that they take themselves out. Not any different than any other terminally ill person who wants to 'go' on their own terms, to suffer less.

MI makes it very tempting to 'give up'. You live in a pitch-black, haunted house that never, ever stops scaring you. Eventually shutting off your brain through death becomes the only thing you didn't yet try.

RIP, guy. I hope you finally have relief.

Agent**It said...

maggs, so very sorry for your loss.

LottaColada said...
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LottaColada said...

@maggs, that's terrible. I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

Renoblondee said...

@maggs I am so sorry.

nancer said...

man, she's a drama magnet. is she clean these days?

rejectedcarebear said...

So sorry @maggs

Lola said...

@maggs, I am so sorry.

I will reiterate what I say Everytime there is a post like this:

If you feel hopeless or lost, if you think suicide biscuits an option, it CAN get better...truly. I know.

Talk to someone, anyone; a friend, a psychologist, a doctor, a pastor. If you feel you have no one, please, please contact me. I will talk as long as you need. There is help.

It can get better.

cdanlola@gmail.com

Lola said...

*is an (not biscuits). Grrr.

(that made me chuckle even though it's a serious subject)

Amber said...

@maggs - I'm sorry for your and your family's loss. Hugs to all of you.

J Sara said...

Well said Libby! I worked in public aid psych for awhile with criminals and it's hell what those people go through. My heart goes out to her - she's had a rough few years...

libby said...

maggs, I hope nothing I wrote was upsetting to you.

I am currently DISABLED* mainly because of MI, and the AM regulars here know that.
I wish I had a reasonable excuse to be ill, like serving in war, but mine is just garden-variety result of heredity & childhood neglect.

If you (or anyone here) has questions about MI or all-consuming suicidal thoughts, I'll answer the best I can. I live in reality (not psychotic), but suicide has been my 'secret out' since I was VERY little, so I've had many years to TRY and understand WHY a little better.
(I'm also chock-full of PTSD, maggs, and if there is ANY question I can answer about that, I'd be happy to 'help' explain it if I can.)

*Seriously, to get officially disabled after working full-time for 25 years means you are very sick. I hope e'erybody believes me, that I'm not gaming the system.

I never realized the papers I signed when going to a therapist gives them permission to disable or hospitalize you against your will, if they think you are in danger. 20 years in therapy, I had NO idea that was true until it happened to me. I was confident because I thought ONLY psychotics got disabled.

Thanks for reading, anyone. smiley face.

And all the best to you & your family maggs. I am so sorry.

libby said...

Wow, thanks, J Sara.
Suicide is like my oldest longest friend, and I like helping anyone I can to understand it a little better.

Frufra said...

@maggs - prayers to you and your family. Nothing we can say will take the pain away, but know that lots of people are holding a thought or prayer for you today.

@libby - you are something else, girl. Your words today will help someone, of that I am sure. Lots of love to you.

Tuxedo Cat said...

@maggs

So sorry for your loss.

Tuxedo Cat said...

@libby

I'm glad you shared this. I'm glad you've learned how to cope, no matter how painful it is. I'm also glad you are able to get some rest.

Supermom said...

So sorry for your loss!!

IDoTheRobot said...

Maggs, I am so sorry. Sending love your way.

auntliddy said...

Sorry maggs. I can only hooe hes in a better place.

auntliddy said...

Hugs, kisses, gossip and fine chocolates to my libby.

auntliddy said...

I saw Mindy on dr drew. Dont judge. She was abused as a child, and sustained actual brain damage from where her abuser wld slam her head on their headboard. This was based on an xray. The point is, shes a very damaged and flawed human, and probably attracts same to feel safe. It must be awful to live in your own head like that with all the demons. Almost every person on dr drew was abused as a child. Badly. So when u see someone acting crazy, give acthought to that. ( again, repeat, no judging because I watched dr drew, lol)

T. E. Cuz said...

@maggs, hugs and condolences. i'm so sorry to hear that.

and hugs to everyone.

<3

libby said...

Frufra--You are always so nice and encouraging to me, no matter what. I truly hope there is someone in your real life who you can give all that comfort to, because you are the BEST.

Thanks SO much, Tuxedo Cat, but I am 'still coping'. There is no medicine for me (I've tried them ALL), so it's day-to-day, up n down. But thanks.

And thanks to you, auntliddy. I feel bad sharing my medical stuff, but I notice sometimes that there are people who really DON'T understand the ins and outs of MI & suicide. Since it's my 'job' now to get better, I try and use my insights to help others understand. It's all I can do, you know? I would save anyone I could from stewing on those painful questions, if I can.

My best friend's husband (drugged,drunk abuser who would NOT seek help) killed himself 4 years ago. I wish I would have known he was suicidal, but they hid it. Seeing everyone's confusion & misunderstanding of the 'workings' of the suicidal mind really affected me, and at least on the internet, I do talk about it. Help if i can.

maggs said...

Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers. He was dealing with PTSD (none of us knew this) and was on anti-depressants. Found out his wife was cheating and was in process of divorcing. I feel tremendous guilt as do the rest of our family for not checking up more on him, I just assumed he was doing great. Brings tears to my eyes to learn he was in such pain & anguish that he felt his only way out was suicide. He was only 24, he had his whole life ahead of him. I'll never understand it. smh.

JJ said...

Very sorry for your loss @maggs.

@libby thanks for sharing. I wish you eventual peace. MI is a biatch, I know this first hand but today I feel hopeful and encouraged. That is a good thing.

I read the details on Mindy's BF from another source. I lost my bro to suicide and it's devastating. Prayers for her and the entire family. It's an awful thing.

Final words - drugs are bad

Frufra said...

libs, I am a lucky, lucky girl. I'm surrounded by love and support in my life - something that I certainly didnt deserve, but caught a break and got it anyway. Mr. Frufra is just about the most wonderful person ever ever - the wind beneath my wings, as corny as that is. He taught me everything I know about love and how rewarding it is to spread it around (which sounds dirty, but that's not what I'm going for, I promise :-).

And my luck continues, because I've gotten to know you and all our CDaN friends, too. <3. Have a wonderful day.

Snapdragon said...

So sad... and @maggs, and @libby (and anyone else in need of them), I send heartfelt thoughts and hugs.

mad cat said...

thank you everyone for sharing, the helpful and sad stories of your lives, they will help someone out there that needs it!

libby said...

Thanks again Frufra, & JJ, and Snapdragon. I hate looking like I want attention, or would WANT to be this way....But I do try to be useful when I can. THAT is my motivation, because giving haters ammo on a site you visit regularly CAN BE dangerous. haha

I'm leaving for a few hours, my BF is up. I'll check back later. Thanks all.

Nellie said...

I love you @libby. Thank you for sharing.

Robin the Mad Photographer said...

@maggs--I'm so sorry you're all going through that, and I wish there was something more concrete we could do to help you out.

@libby--Hang in there, OK? You've always been one of my favorite posters here (and yes, your armpit still cracks me up; it's possibly the most distinctive avatar on the site), and I'm sorry you're having to deal with all of this crap. I've had my own issues w/depression for a long time, so I understand at least a little bit...

Both of you: you do know you've got a support system here, right? Sure, we're weird, but we really do care, and hey, isn't normal just a dryer setting anyway? *hugs all around*

Mango said...

@ maggs - sorry for your loss.

@ libby - Huggs to you, my friend! I've enjoyed your posts since 2007 ('tho for some reason my profile says my account has only been active since Nov. 2011??). Anyway, keep on keepin' on. :)

E Gee Be said...

@libby, you are brave and special to share what you have gone through in the hopes of helping someone else, I truly appreciate you on here, mostly for your humor, but today for your honesty as well.
@Maggs and @JJ, please accept my condolences for your terrible losses. My heart goes out to you and the others left, but also to your tortured loved ones, who did not see another way.

figgy said...

Augh, @maggs, so many families have gon through that...just criminal that our veterans are not being supported/medically treated like they should. I keep hearing how many suicides there are among Iraq/Afghanistan vets. So sorry.

@libby, I think that sharing one's story can be a HUGE help to people struggling themselves. Kudos to you for sharing, I'm sure you have/are/will be helping more than you'll ever know. Best wishes for your own continued improved health.

nessa said...

@maggs my condolences :/ prayers to you and your family

feraltart said...

maggs, very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you. Thank you for sharing.

feraltart said...

libby, your courage is inspiring. Thank you for sharing & trusting this little community. Bravo.

libby said...

Gosh...everybody...I hope I didn't hijack the thread. Thank you so much for your kind words...feral, figgy, EGB, Mango, Robin, Nellie.

Everyone IS so nice and supportive here---for me to even post this under my real first name....I'm super private IRL, I'll put it that way.

Thanks to all, and never be ashamed of getting therapy anyone, They have heard IT ALL.

Agent**It said...

Aaron Swartz, RIP. He saw everything in gray tones in his final days. He described his depression in a 2007 entry on his blog “Raw Thought.”

He wrote, “You feel worthless.You wonder whether it’s worth going on. Everything you think about seems bleak — the things you’ve done, the things you hope to do, the people around you.

ReesesPeace said...

@maggs..I'm so very sorry for your loss. Tight hugs.

Libby...you said what I feel in such an eloquent way. Hugs to the Armpit Chickie!

MI sucks. I, too, am disabled with MI. Genetics and childhood sexual abuse. This very day, I'm more hopeful and optimistic than I've been for the last few weeks. It's tough. God, it is.

My hope and wish for everyone is...peace, light and love. <3

lunabelle said...

I did not read this whole thread.

I am so sorry your family had to go through that....

I am so sorry you are having MI issues.

My family, and I, all have MI issues (genetic family). Most have self medicated through booze so there is abuse as well.

I work all day to be okay for when my family gets home.

I wish my kids didn't get this......

Amy in MI said...

Maggs I'm so sorry. May you and your family find peace

Amy in MI said...

I may not post as much but I read everyday. Libby thank you for sharing. It's hard to explain mental illness to someone until you've been through it

g.strathmore said...

Very sad.

Moosefan said...

I lost a brother in law and two very close friends to suicide. If they had only waited a couple of days, everything would have been fine. I pray and I beg-if you or someone you know is in the deep clutches of depression, please, get help. Call someone, go to your local ER, talk to your religious person, please, please please, get help. Not a single day goes by that I do not think of them and the wonderful things that they would have accomplished. You are loved, you matter, and your life makes the difference in the lives of others. Please. Get help.

califblondy said...

Libby, your offer to help others is making me cry. Seeking or accepting help is the hardest first step and for you to be struggling yourself, but yet offering your help to strangers is just effn' awesome.

Maggs, I'm so sorry. I just read the other day about the horrible suicide rate for our returning soldiers.

SashaJames2 said...

Mags sorry for your loss, may his soul fund the peace he was searching for. Hugs and kisses to u.

Vkn said...

Who are these idiots

__-__=__ said...

maggs - so sorry for your loss. Hang in there.