Friday, March 19, 2010

Your Turn

Sex or money - Which is harder to discuss?

71 comments:

Dulcinea said...

Money. Sex is waaaaay more fun, at least in a newer relationship. I don't want to share my finances so much, until I know whether I am interested in someone for the long term.

Lady J said...

Money-its a VERY touchy subject and can cause a lot of tension. Sex on the other hand is a tension reliever.

bflogurl said...

I tend to keep both to myself =)

Lisa (original) said...

Sex, same reason as West End Girl.

farmgirl said...

I don't want to talk about it!

sickle said...

money. sex is easy to talk about with most people. money is almost always hard.

sassyyankee said...

Money. Money. Money.

Jess said...

Money!. Sex it's hard to talk about depending of the relationship status(parents,family,friends)

Ms Cool said...

Money. Or lack of.

*girl said...

I discuss sex with everyone on the planet. In fact the girls at the Starbucks by my house look forward to detailed accounting of my walk of shames.

Money is private.

Sue Ellen Mishkey said...

I third West End Girl.

AJ said...

Sex, for me, because I'm gay and not "out".
Sigh... someday!

looserdude said...

Since I have to pay for sex, I always end up talking about both.

MN Girl said...

Money! It is stressful and sex isn't!

C said...

Money for me.

It can depend on who I am discussing it with and what exactly I am discussing, also.

Harriet Hellfire said...

Excellent question. I don't find either particularly comfortable to discuss with other people, but I hate it when people try to be all Sex and The City and talk about their orgasms and different dicks they have encountered. Most of the time it just seems contrived, and that makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed, not the talking about sex in itself. Of course, most of my friends think I'm a prude because of it but the truth is, I think they sound stupid when they talk about sex and I don't want to sound like them. I don't love talking about money either but I don't find it that hard.

shazzzba said...

IT'S ALWAYS MONEY...WELL 80% OF THE TIME...MOST PEOPLE LOVE TO TALK ABOUT SEX...

GalFriday said...

Ugh - talking about money stresses me out. Mostly because I don't have any.
Also, asking for money - raises/discounts on bad service/etc - makes me feel like I'm going to faint.

On the other hand - I moonlight as a sex toy salesperson ... so, I'm definitely comfortable taking about sex. ;)

Syko said...

Depends on who you are talking to. If I'm talking to a very inept lover that I like for all his other attributes, it would be easier to discuss money. If I'm talking to the IRS, I'd rather talk about sex.

Cor said...

I do those parties, so talking about sex is a total piece of cake.

Dijea said...

Money. What do you want to know about sex?

captivagrl said...

MONEY.

amanda rae said...

Sex. I am just sick to death of everyone everywhere running their mouths about sex, sex, SEX. Yes, we all have it, it's wonderful and fun, but for fuck's sakes can't we shut up about it for five fucking minutes?? I probably wouldn't have such an issue with it if it wasn't shoved down everyone's throats all the time...there is no place you can go where it isn't being relentlessly shoved in your face. You cannot turn on the TV, read a magazine, go shopping, do anything without being bombarded with sex. I never thought I was a prude, but I must be simply because I don't want to hear about your fisting/S&M/AB-DL fetishes, or whatever. It's gross, TMI and really not interesting to anyone other than you and whoever (or whatever) you're screwing. Oh, I'm also a prude because I don't want to talk to ANYONE about what goes on in my marriage...so basically I think sex is great, but it would be better if we had some mystery!

However, I also hate talking about money...it's so fucking BORING. I don't care how much money you make, have, spend on plastic trinkets for your McMansion, I am NOT interested. I think I'm just a weirdo though, and I'm sure all of you would be shocked (simply SHOCKED!!) to hear that I'm not a people person...LOL. The reason is obviously because I have nothing to talk about with anyone!!

vitazza said...

Money!! I wil clam up and run/hide under a rock!!!

Catherine said...

Sex FOR money....lol!

Just Another Blonde said...

$$$. I am shameless when it comes to sex and have no hangups about it that I know of. I don't force the sex talk but I roll with it.

-JAB-

Weezie said...

Money. I wish I didn't even have to think about it. As far as sex goes, I'll talk about it, I'll do it, I just don't want to see it---like running, most people are either laughable or plain ugly while doing it. Give me Bette Davis and Paul Henreid sharing a cigarette over porn stars any day.

RocketQueen said...

Money. I get squirmy even thinking about it.

cdanluva said...

Not even close - money.

Just Another Blonde said...

Although I actually talk freely about $ too, come to think of it.

Type-A Bride said...

Money. Always. At least sex can be comical, money is always uncomfortable.

RJ said...

Money is an extremely touchy subject. I try to NEVER talk about it.

I agree with amanda rae, sex is overdiscussed. Talking about it too much really does take the sexy out of sex. Most people need to talk less sex with friends and acquaintances and more sex talk (real, factual talk) with their kids. Then maybe there would be fewer single teen moms. Kids today are drowning in sexual innuendo and starving for actual facts about both the act and its many, many possible consequences.

Tenisha said...

Money....because I am terrible at it...er...managing it. LOL.

shelley502 said...

Money because I don't have any.

Audrey said...

@ AJ - good luck, it will happen when you're ready.

And, Money, definitely. Although a girlfriend of mine told me a long time ago to never tell your girlfriends how good your man is in bed because they may be tempted to steal him. I don't like that kind of thinking, but I must admit I do follow that rule. But he is SO GOOD! ;)

jagerlilly said...

Moolah for me.

Harriet Hellfire said...

I went to one of those sex toy parties once. It was pathetic. First of all, the hostesses (hosti?)/ sales people were mother and daughter. That was a little awkward. They were also both extremely fat and had mullets. And then the mom said that the reason she started selling sex toys was because she was using so many! *BARF*. And then everyone sat there trying to act like they were thuper open minded and thexual and not embarrassed, but they were really all kind of uptight chicks. They had made a penis cake but no one ate it. Yeah, it was a shitty party.

Lisa said...

Money.....Sex is the easy one to discuss....money gets messy

Harriet Hellfire said...

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I agree with amanda rae and RJ *LOL*

Just Another Blonde said...

Harriet you had me at the matching mullets

JoElla said...

Oh gawd Money is a million times harder to discuss than sex!

Hell even doing "the Talk" with my kids is easier than discussing money with my husband!

RocketQueen said...

lol Harriet! That story is hilarious.

Lila said...

Both. Especially now that I'm remarried. No one needs to know I have more money than I ever have and that our sex is much more kinkier than anyone would expect.

The sex talk is seriously overdone, what happened to privacy? I don't care if you have to add $150 to your quarterly budget because you wear out your vibrator like its the end of the world.

My first statement makes me sound like a prude (which is far from it - especially 10 years ago.) Overall, I just feel people have lost their sense of privacy.

captivagrl said...

very funny Harriet! wish I was there!

NoHo Wino said...

Money. (That's what I want)

Lisa (not original) said...

Money is boring to discuss. You either have some or you don't. What's there to talk about? I'll talk about both, but sex is much more fun

NYC2008 said...

Money.
I could talk about sex all day.

Sean said...

Well, since I am not getting any of either right now...I would say both. \

Bad Fish said...

Neither. Blurt it out ffs.

MCH said...

Depends on who with but 9 times out of 10, money. But I don't wish to discuss sex with elders though esp if they are relatives.

memyselfandi said...

Money for sure.

palealebrew10 said...

Well, since I'm not getting one or the other, they both suck to discuss right now. Though hopefully that changes tonight. I need to go out.

But usually, money. It's a tough topic. And also somewhat boring.

Bella said...

Muhla. Our fights about money is waaaay more intense than sex.

Sex convo:

Me - listen honey, it's been a while...you wanna do it tonight?

Him - Hell yeah!

See?

ardleigh said...

I'd rather talk gossip.

AJ said...

lol @ Bella

SJ said...

Wow, I'm surprised at everyone's answers. I find it does depend on the audience. In general, I don't mind discussing either with anyone. Who gives a shit how much money anyone makes? Not me. Who gives a shit what kind of sex you have? Not me.

But with my hubby, sex is impossible to discuss. Mainly because our sex life sucks (and always has) and I control the money (so there is no need for discussion). How do I discuss with my hubby how much sex with him sucks? I don't, that's how. I'm hoping I can live without hot sex. Please tell me I can. Six years and going strong.

For the record, hubby is my best friend in the world, and that's why I married him.

AJ said...

@SJ - I don't know how one would bring the topic up without someone getting upset, but if I were in your shoes (or bed as the case is) I would never mention that the current sex-life sucks - in any way! I would try to suggest doing "different" things as oppossed to saying "better" things. Know what I mean? Man-pride = fragile. Probably doesn't help, but good luck anyways :)

ps - A stong friendship is probably the only reason to marry anyone IMO, likely to be better times together than a shallow reason like good looks or a temporary reason like lust.

Mooshki said...

Sex. I'm always bitching about my financial problems to anyone who will listen.

Lisa (not original) said...

SJ, seduce your husband. Tell him you saw some dumb thing in Cosmo and wanted to give it a try. Anything that will open up dialogue with your best friend can only strengthen the relationship.

Selock said...

Oh my God, MONEY ALL THE WAY.

sunnyside1213 said...

SJ...lived it for almost 20 years. Then he went off with the much younger woman and now he is her problem. Suck it moon face.

redronnie said...

SJ - I know, I adore my husband, easily the sweetest, most generous man on the planet, I am told on a regular basis what a great guy he is, we don't have sex..nope, a few time before the wedding and then a few times a year, to once a year to once in two years..we hug, we kiss each other without passion, he is my best friend. Once in a while a bolt will hit me and I feel so lost and sad I cry, I remember what it was like to have a passion filled relationship and I wish so much it was different between us. I would never leave him, but sometimes I wonder what it would be like to be loved with passion. No one knows, because how can you begin to explain..no he's not gay or bi, just not interested in sex and after awhile you wonder if it's just me he's not interested in...money no problem I can talk about bonds, trusts, investments..but how much or how little I have not a chance..

Dulcinea said...

Jealous of Lila! Remarried with money and kinky sex? Yes, please! Maybe someday...

Pamela S. said...

Based what I have found out about my recently departed husband...BOTH.

Tara said...

If speaking with friends/close relatives - neither.

If speaking with a stranger - money. Maybe. I'm pretty open about most things. However, if you want to know my feelings about it, unless its something superficial, there's where the uncomfortableness comes in.

I can tell anyone just about anything....except how I feel about it. Does that make sense?

telesma said...

Money. I'm WAY more hung up about that than sex.

Jamie's Girl said...

sex

Mango said...

Sex.

Unless it's the sex life of a celeb. Then it's open season.

Kim said...

MONEY.

I can talk about all kinds of sex. Mine, or other peoples, straight or kinky. Legal or less than.

..but it will be a cold day in hell before I ask how much something cost, how much someone makes and it will be another cold day before I answer any questions about that.

Merlin D. Bear said...

Money.
Sex is hormonal, money is life.
Simple as that.

Christina Penn said...

Those are two of my favorite things to talk about, especially with my husband. But then we both are economics nerds, and our relationship is basically built on sex.