What Do You Think?
So, after perusing the lingerie ads in Cosmo, I actually found an article that had somehow got out in there. Turns out it was with Blake Lively. Since I was in my reading library anyway, I figured, what the hell? Read a little. I like Blake, and can appreciate the fact that she is Miss Independent and a definite type A personality. What I found kind of interesting her interview was this quote she gave.
"I've kissed just three people in my life, other than stuff that I've done for TV or movies. I know – I'm weird! I hope Brad Pitt doesn't hear this. He's never going to want to marry me!"
So, she must have known that after Angelina Jolie, Brad is going to expect a woman with experience in the multiple of hundreds. Now, granted hookers don't always kiss and they have experience. I mean Blake doesn't say anything about sex, just kissing. Maybe she just doesn't like lips for some reason.
As a guy, I am conflicted. I guess the old notion was that you wanted a virgin who was incredible in bed. If her family owned a liquor store, that was a huge plus. Obviously that scenario is unrealistic, although, if your family does own a liquor store, give me a call.
So, does Blake think that she can't get a guy like Brad Pitt because she doesn't have experience with men and so she has to sleep with a bunch of guys so he will want her? I'm not sure that is really the right kind of message that needs to be sent out. Blake also thinks the fact that she has only kissed three guys is also weird. Why is it weird? Who told her it was? See, Blake I think said all of this in a funny kind of way, but I also think she feels there is some truth to it, and a lot of women and girls are going to read it and wonder if no guy will ever take them because they have only kissed one guy or they are a virgin.
So, what do you think? Should Blake worry about the fact she has only kissed three guys? Do you think it is weird? Do you in fact, own a liquor store?
"I've kissed just three people in my life, other than stuff that I've done for TV or movies. I know – I'm weird! I hope Brad Pitt doesn't hear this. He's never going to want to marry me!"
So, she must have known that after Angelina Jolie, Brad is going to expect a woman with experience in the multiple of hundreds. Now, granted hookers don't always kiss and they have experience. I mean Blake doesn't say anything about sex, just kissing. Maybe she just doesn't like lips for some reason.
As a guy, I am conflicted. I guess the old notion was that you wanted a virgin who was incredible in bed. If her family owned a liquor store, that was a huge plus. Obviously that scenario is unrealistic, although, if your family does own a liquor store, give me a call.
So, does Blake think that she can't get a guy like Brad Pitt because she doesn't have experience with men and so she has to sleep with a bunch of guys so he will want her? I'm not sure that is really the right kind of message that needs to be sent out. Blake also thinks the fact that she has only kissed three guys is also weird. Why is it weird? Who told her it was? See, Blake I think said all of this in a funny kind of way, but I also think she feels there is some truth to it, and a lot of women and girls are going to read it and wonder if no guy will ever take them because they have only kissed one guy or they are a virgin.
So, what do you think? Should Blake worry about the fact she has only kissed three guys? Do you think it is weird? Do you in fact, own a liquor store?
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How times change! When I was in my 20s, men only wanted virgins, and I married, knowing it was a mistake, because I'd already slept with him and knew no other man would want me since I was no longer a virgin. Sad. Because none of the upper double digits I've been with since my divorce cared at all that they were going where others had led.
"If her family owned a liquor store, that was a huge plus."
Hee!
Aww. Blake is lovely and fresh-faced, and life hasn't worked her over yet (apparently). She should enjoy that! I am the mom of 2 teenage girls and it bugs me to see that where once society conditioned girls to think their chief value lay in virginity, now it seems to be in competing to see who can be the biggest freak in bed. Either way, I don't think girls should be letting someone else pull the strings with regard to their sexuality.
Yet, they do somehow. Weird.
I own a bar Ent. Come over anytime. Drinks will always be on the house.
From my experiences, the guys I've dated and guys that I know, they don't want to date virgins. They wants woman who have experience in that kind of thing. So if your a virgin, guys don't want you. So I can understand what Blake's talking about.
Maybe she means "just kissed" as opposed to "kissed & later slept with"?
As a guy (ahem ahem) I feel I have better insight than those without phallus'... umm... I mean girls... In case that's not clear.
For me, I don't really think it's an issue. A different type of guy will demand different things. If the guy is tradition (a prude... just kidding) I think he probably will want... ummm... hope for... someone who's not sexually experienced?
If a guy is not so traditional (man whore... kidding again) than, perhaps he probably will want someone more experienced.
I guess it's down to the type of guy you date. A virginal girl probably won't date a guy that demands experience anyway.
i call bs.
She is only 21 & had the same boyfriend for 3 years when she was a teen--nothing unusual about not kissing other guys when you are in a
long term relationship.
I think that I am in my 30's and the number of people someone has kissed/ banged doesn't really concern me anymore. I do agree that it's sad that women are valued by how many people they have or haven't slept with, or how sexually adventurous they are, but personally, I don't care. Unless I'm expected to take it in the pooper or else be called "frigid".
Hmmm, did Enty give up a blind with the whole "Now, granted hookers don't always kiss and they have experience." line?
But wait, what's the "Sex position they lust after" on the cover?! Did the Donkey Punch finally win?
Dave, I think it was erotic asphyxiation. Better luck next time.
Ragdoll & Dave, I think it depends on if they're polling men or women or both. From what I've read on the interwebs the donkey punch is a big winner with the guys, and "it was just anal so it doesn't count" with the girls. :) Wait, I forgot it's Cosmo - they only care about men's opinions on sex.
Knowing STD's run rampant in Hollyweird maybe this is an opening for someone to give her one.
Yeah, it IS Cosmo, which has always mistaken female empowerment and liberation with sexual promiscuity. The point is to be able to choose - maybe you will sleep with half of California today, or maybe you will sew your labia lips shut with thread and declare yourself eternally pure - but either way it's your choice and it's OKAY. But Cosmo makes you feel bad if your sex life isn't a marathon. They laud the independent woman (oh, excuse me, that's fun fearless female) but then in the next two articles they advise you on 98 positions that will drive your man wild and ten things about women that men HATE so please don't do those ten things, or else you will never have a man and no, simply not wanting a man or not giving a flying fuck about snagging one before you turn 30 isn't an option, and you'll be a not-so-fun, old granny who has cursed herself to die alone.
So yes. In Cosmo world, only kissing three guys is indeed kind of weird. And yeah, I clearly have my issues with this magazine.
I thought I was the only one who felt that way about Cosmo!!!! I am so glad I am not alone.
"...which has always mistaken female empowerment and liberation with sexual promiscuity."
THANK YOU!!! You just summed up my problem with the Facebook generation.
I hate Cosmo. Haven't read it in years.
Blake is almost 21. By the time I was 21, I had kissed *struggles to remember back that far* 4 guys, I think. Are kids really so slutty nowadays that they've kissed/screwed tons of people?
Blake should be commended for admitting that @ 20, she's only kissed 3 guys (allegedly), including her current boyfriend who she's been with like, I wanna say almost a year? And she's in the biz! To kiss and/or bang multiples in your
20's, Eh...to each his own.
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She's got a man's first name and an adverb for a last name. It's tough to find someone who'll kiss you when you're that disadvantaged.
Jerry, I think the fact that she's drop-dead gorgeous may balance out her name and personality. :)
i'm not really sure how this is possible, unless she's only had 3 long-term boyfriends or something...
Enty, baby, I can supply you with all the liquor you'll ever need. Call me!
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