Monday, March 30, 2009

I'm Taking Gisele's Side



I think all of you know what a fan I am of Bridget Moynahan. She is amazing and she handled the whole break up and being pregnant with Tom Brady in a really fun and cool way. She got back at him, but was still mature about it.

With that said, I don't think Bridget would have a problem with what Gisele Bundchen has been quoted as saying in her Vanity Fair interview.

"I understand that he has a mom, and I respect that, but to me it's not like because somebody else delivered him, that's not my child. I feel it is, 100 percent. I want him to have a great relationship with his mom, because that's important, but I love him the same way as if he were mine."

Why is this wrong that she wants to love him as her own? She has been with Tom Brady since he found out he was going to be a father and has been with him ever since. Gisele didn't give birth to the child, but has probably seen him from the day he was born. I don't understand why everyone is jumping on her for what she is saying. I can understand the jumping on her part, but not for her comments.

She recognizes that he has a mom and that she is not his mom and I think it is better to love him as if he were her own than as someone she really doesn't want to deal with because she didn't give birth to him. I don't understand how she is supposed to feel? Does someone want her to feel less for this child because it isn't her own? I understand if you come into a relationship and someone has a child who is 5 or 10 or 15 or whatever. Your relationship with that child may be completely different. But Gisele came into this relationship when he discovered he was going to be a dad, and has now married this man. Presumably she will be there over the course of this child's life.

I don't think Bridget really cares that Gisele said this and understands what she meant while saying it.

56 comments:

teddymac said...

I find it very weird that Gisele and Bridget have never met.

christine said...

Good for her...I can understand as a step-mom how hard it is to please everyone.

I hope that she and Bridget have a good relationship and equal love for the child to grown up happy, healthy and wise- what else matters????

kanonymous said...

It is in the best interest of the child for Gisele to love him as her own, and it is also very natural, since she has helped raise him since he was born.

Pookie said...

her heart may be in the right place, but her delivery stinks. she should spend some $ on haveing some pr peeps coach her on the appropriate ways to voice a sentiment so you don't sound like an ass.

AnonMom said...

I'm not ... if I were Bridget, I'd make a huge old stink about this ... to me, it sounds like Gisele's giving Bridget a big old F-U ... but that's the single mom in me. It also could be the delivery and that English is her second language, but if it were me, I would be beyond p.o.'d.

christine said...

Where does it say Gisele and Bridget have never met? I don't think this is possible, as I would NEVER let my child be taken care of by someone I haven't met-no matter who she is.

I agree she sould use a little coaching on the delivery...but still think her heart is in the right place.

Melissa said...

I'm sorry Ent, but I have to disagree with you. She says she feels like he is "100 percent" hers. She loves him as if he were hers? This sounds like she is trying to rub Bridget's nose in the dirt.

She can say that she loves the kid and wants to be a good step-parent, but her comments make it sound like she is his #1 mom.

Gis is a bitch. Plain and simple.

teddymac said...

christine.... I says they never met in the Vanity Fair article that Enty links to. Here's the quote from that article...

Despite their commitment to spending time with John, however, Gisele has never met his mother. “I understand that he has a mom, and I respect that, but to me it’s not like because somebody else delivered him, that’s not my child. I feel it is, 100 percent,” Gisele says.

jib said...

I think she could have been a bit more respectful of Bridget by maybe at least mentioning her by name.

Past that I imagine I would feel the same - a child does not have to come from your body for you to love it that way - doesn't matter how old the child is or who they "came" from.

As a mom, whenever my ex has a serious person in his life all I can do is hope she treats my daughters with respect and affection - I hope Bridget would feel the same - Gisele certainly seems to be genuine.

emailchallenged said...

i think it's a touchy subject especially seeing as the way she came to know the child almost by default. sure she's great for accecpting the child as her own but the bottom line is the baby has a mother whom he lives with full time and is the p.c.g. and is going to be making most of the important decesions regarding his wellbeing by herself. i think it was somewhat insensative for giselle to say what she did. it would be one thing if bridgette was not in the picture at all but she is and she was screwed over not only by tom but also by giselle to some degree.

Quintessential Southerner said...

yeah she needs to be coached, but i take it that gisele believes she has the same responsibility to care for her stepson as does his mom.

i hope that this does not turn into a battle with the media, and that if bridget needs clarification then she will call gisele.

nunaurbiz said...

I'm with you, Enty! Much better this way than to have the stepmom resent the other child, which happens all to often and did happen to my mother.

Goodgrief said...

I have a friend who has a step mom. Her step mom has always resented her. Like she is in a competition with her step mom and half siblings for her fathers love and attention. Anyway whenever I hear of a step mom actually feeling like the kid is hers also, it makes me happy. I have seen it the other way and it aint pretty. It won't be long before he will want to take her for show and tell. Can you imagine having a football star for a dad and a supermodel for a stepmom? He will be the most popular kid in school.

Syd said...

It's unfair to parse her words. Her English could use some polish, but I think the sentiment is fabulous.

DNfromMN said...

In interviews Gisele and Bridget both come across as competitive people (not about Tom and Bridge's son, but just in general), and I can see how it could be a push-pull situation between them (particularly as Tom and Gisele are more successful/$). I'd like to think what she meant was, she will treat and protect JET as if he were his own son, not that she wants Bridget out of the way.

As someone else said, there's a little passive-aggressiveness going on by calling Bridget "his mother" rather than by name.

bawana said...

I think Giselle "thinks" this is the cool thing to say. But if she really loved the kid so much, she wouldn't call him an "it."

She said, "I feel it is, 100 percent."

Plus why is she talking about him in the press? She's using another woman's child to enhance her own PR? That's not a loving thing to do.

Mooshki said...

What Pookie said.

That interview must be dated - Bridget was at their wedding, so I imagine they've met. :)

Bad Fish said...

The problem with what she said is that she came from the perspective that "she wants him to have a great relationship with his mom". Uh, hello? Its not your place to wish that, Gisele. YOU'RE the one that's imposing.

Screw her and the little homewrecking pair of crotchless panties she rode in on.

linnea said...

i thought they had already broken up when she came around?

AnonMom said...

Exactly, Bad Fish.

Terrance said...

Why are people rewriting history? Bridget and Tom were broken up BEFORE he was with Giselle, so how does that make her a homewrecker? When Bridget announced that she was pregnant, Tom and Giselle had been together for some time. I don't care for what Giselle has said in this interview, but people need to calm down with the homewrecker crap.

kanonymous said...

Bad Fish, what's wrong with her wishing him a good relationship with his mom? I wish him a good relationship with his mom too. Am I out of place?

She sounds like a good step-mother and that's all that should matter.

nancer said...

what would people prefer? that she hate the little guy, resent him and do everything in her power to drive a wedge between him and his father?

i don't get the criticism. the icky part of this was what TOM did--not her.

i've been a stepmom. it's a hard fucking job. i'm happy she adores him. why isn't everyone?

califblondy said...

I've been on both sides of this fence and I think that as a secure parent, it's a blessing to have someone else who truly cares about my child.

I read though that these two kept the wedding on the downlow and the reason why they married here was so that Tom could have the baby there without Bridget knowing because she would have not agreed if she would have had a heads-up.

For some reason Bridget rubs me the wrong way.

bawana said...

Despite them saying it was over and then they found out they were pregnant, I think a decent man would have put Giselle on hold to stand by Bridget. He should have been available to support her in whatever way she needed.

And I'm not saying shotgun wedding, but to be around to help instead of parading around with Giselle. Ugh.

If I had been in Giselle's place, I'd have told Tom to call me after the baby was born and go help your babymama.

B626 said...

To me stepmom means take a step back and let the mom be #1 don't confuse the child or worse compete for the Number 1 maternal figure award, that will only make the little guy's love seem like a trophy he's handing out instead of a natural emotion.
beentheredonethat

Kait said...

I always got the impression that Bridget didn't want Tom around, not that he took off when he found out she was pregnant. And I thought they had been separated when she announced her pregnancy.

I think Gisele is saying something very noble - that just because she didn't birth this kid doesn't mean she doesn't love him like her own child. She is very careful to say that she knows he has a mother and she's not trying to take that place but she loves him. People are making a big deal out of nothing. It was a sweet sentiment and she seems like she does genuinely care for the child.

Grace said...

I find what Giselle said hypocritical -- she said many mean things about Bridget when the news of the pregnancy broke -- such as she should get an abortion. G was very mean and cruel.

cibele said...

This homewrecker story won't go anyway, jeez. They were broken up and i feel people are insane to jump to conclusion and are really easy to judge people they don't even know.

And now people are judging this girl when she wants this kid to be loved, even if this kid it's not hers? That's crazy. You guys should worry about kids that have no food, no parents or even kids that are mistreated by their step moms. But no, you have to criticize people that are doing good...the insanity...

pomme said...

it's nice to see she loves the son of his husband! what is the trouble?

lutefisk said...

She is in a no win situation. If she said she would only feel love for her own child, she would have also been jumped on.
I give her credit for how she feels.

kanonymous said...

"Giselle . . . said many mean things about Bridget when the news of the pregnancy broke -- such as she should get an abortion. G was very mean and cruel."

Are you serious??? When did Giselle ever say Bridget should get an abortion? When did she ever say anything cruel about Bridget to the press? The answer: NEVER. You're taking things you heard from someone who heard from someone who heard from some cheap tabloid and believing them as fact. Seriously, sometimes I feel like this is a middle school classroom (and I apologize, Grace, if you are in middle school.). Stuff you read in the tabloids should not be believed as fact. Tabloids are not encyclopedias. Neither Bridget, Tom, or Giselle has EVER said anything negative about each other to the press.

kanonymous said...

"Despite them saying it was over and then they found out they were pregnant, I think a decent man would have put Giselle on hold to stand by Bridget. He should have been available to support her in whatever way she needed."

First of all, THEY were not pregnant, Bridget was. They were expecting a baby, but Bridget was the only one pregnant.

Secondly, how was he supposed to be "available to support her"? Do you really think Bridget wanted Tom around after they had broken up?

There was no need for Tom to put his life on hold and not date anyone while Bridget was pregnant. What's the point? Bridet herself said she went on several dates while pregnant.

kanonymous said...

"To me stepmom means take a step back and let the mom be #1 don't confuse the child or worse compete for the Number 1 maternal figure award, that will only make the little guy's love seem like a trophy he's handing out instead of a natural emotion."

Ir doesn't sound like she's trying to compete with Bridget. She said Bridget is his mom and she understands and respects that, but she can't help loving him like her own child. It's different when you're with your stepchild from the moment he's born rather than meeting him when he's 5. What is she supposed to do, step back and act like she doesn't care about him? Having three parents that dote on you is better than two.

LauraM said...

people, people, please. Her english has always been messed up. it's clear that there is animosity in the situation, but the important thing is, that she loves the boy. who cares how she said it? she loves him like he was hers! that's great! she knows very well she didn't give birth to him, but will love him like if she did. she's not a homewrecker and she may not be that nice. who cares? she loves the child and that's what's important here. one day they will all get along eventually. well, at least i hope for the sake of the child...

BlahFrickinBlah said...

The way she put it across was back handed or just a plain dumb ass way to word the situation.

She can be step mom all she wants but to put herself as his mother just short of giving birth to the kid is bullshit. No matter what happens in life, Bridget will always be his mom. If Tom and Gisele divorce, she's done with that kid. Tom and her don't even have primary custody of the kid so she has even less of a right to put herself out there like that. I can guaran-fuckin-tee you that if they have a kid together, she will realize what she has said it bullshit. No matter how much she loves that kid and I don't doubt that she does, she is going to always love her kid just a bit more whether she would admit it or not. I've seen it happen tons of times in blended families and first hand in my own. Just as much as that kid will never love her as much as his own mom. It's just not the same.

Bottom line, you never step on The Mom's toes.

Lana said...

Regarding the whole "homewrecker" thing.

I have NO IDEA what was going on with Tom & Bridgette. But when i initially saw this article at the time (i think it was a year or two before T & G hooked up) a little red flag went up. And then when they (Tom & Bridgette) broke up and he IMMEDIATLY hooked up with Gis, I thought it was VERY interesting.

Here's the link:
http://www.contactmusic.com/new/xmlfeed.nsf/mndwebpages/bundchen%20eyes%20football%20star


Regarding the step-mom comments...I would MUCH rather have someone who LOVED my kid as their own, then someone who didn't. I would (and have) put my own insecurities aside.

Christine said...

blahfrickinblah-

I totally agree with you. That's what ticks me off about the statement. It's a backhanded profession of love for the boy, but really she comes off as challenging B's relationship with her own son. It's like saying, That dress really looks great (because it covers your big ass).

I love your son just as if he was my own (I feel like he is my own son).

It's not true because she can't possibly mean it until she has her own children.

There were much more diplomatic ways of handling the questions posed. She knows how to speak english, for goodness sake.

And I'm not a stepmom, but my own mom was a step to my half siblings. It is rough, but how it works is that you don't challenge the inherent position of the bio mom.

Dr. Spaceman said...

I agree that the way this was worded was a little off, but english isn't her native language. But the fact that there is a little boy with three loving parents is great. Some kids don't even have one.

And just to add my two cents...even if they did get together when he was still with Bridget, that doesn't matter now and has nothing to do with the child. And why would she be the homewrecker...wouldn't Tom be also?

LauraM said...

Thank you LANA! Why are poeple making these assumptions of how she's going to act when she has a child of her own? You don't know! What Lana and Dr. Spaceman said is right. At least the child is getting love from all over the place. You guys would be criticizing her if she said she loves of him as a stepchild and not her own. She is not stepping over the boundaries of the biological mom. she's just saying how she loves the child like if it was hers! she LOVES him. why are some people assuming this or that or that she's disregarding bridgett? people come on... because people thinking this way, is the reason most families can't get along. it's like damn if she does and damn is she doesn't.

Champaggles said...

I'm not sure why everyone jumps in Giselle. If you people think Tom Brady was stupid enough to be having unproteced sex...seriously. Tom and his babymomma were coming to end of their relationship. She is not a great actress, will never make the money he is making. Suddenly when it's over she's pregant. I think someone poked a hole in the condom. She's going to be taken care of via child support for the next 18 years. Let's say it together people...golddigger!

Mexi said...

My son's stepmom and I get along better than his father and I do. I'm so glad that she loves my son and doesn't resent him like some step-parents do. I have no issues with him loving her, because I know that when he is over there, she takes care of him! It's so much easier on me that he wants to go with them rather than screaming and crying that he doesn't want to. You just have to put it all in perspective! At least we know she's not mistreating him.

LauraM said...

Amen to that Mexi, Amen to that!

ambernyc said...

I don't care for Gisele much, and I've never seen Tom Brady's appeal (plus I hate the Patriots), but I agree with what she said, and think it's awesome that she wants to be such a part of the little one's life, and loves him so much. Props to her.

Anna said...

I have been a step mother it is the hardest job in the world. If Gisele love this child than that is a gift and his mother should be grateful for it, I loved my step son, his mother resented that and thought it was some sort of 'mommy competition" eventually she became so impossible to deal with that I had to take a big step back. I never wanted to do anything other than support my step son and support his relationship with his mother, however his father and I are now divorced and I hardly ever see him. It is a horrible heartbreak.

KellyLynn said...

I love that this child has so many people who love him so deeply. There's nothing wrong with that at all.

Miss X said...

Wouldn't the world be a better place if more step parents took this view?

Ayesha said...

Gisele's heart is NOT in the right place.

I guess people are not familiar with the type of woman that she is. Sugar coating poison. If anyone calls her on it, she can act all innocent: "What? I said I LOVE the baby. What's wrong with that?"

She's a passive/aggressive bitch and her insecurity is showing.

bawana said...

Wow, that link makes me wonder about the exact timeline there. Methinks there was some overlap. That was an amazing find, Lana.

http://www.contactmusic.com/new/xmlfeed.nsf/mndwebpages/bundchen%20eyes%20football%20star

I think Ayesha knows a b*tch when she sees one.

Mainly, if she loved the boy so much she would refuse to talk about him. She'd say, I'm the celebrity, not the baby. He deserves his privacy. I wonder what she'd do if faced with "Sophie's Choice". Equal my foot!

And yes, when two people make a baby, THEY are pregnant. It takes two. I hate this idea that every unplanned pregnancy means the woman is golddigger.

How many of you know folks with unplanned babies and all parties concerned are dirt poor? There's no such thing as an accident when the father has money? Arrogant men like that often hate condoms.

kanonymous said...

"And yes, when two people make a baby, THEY are pregnant. It takes two."

I'm not sure whether or not you took biology. Yes, it takes two people to make a baby. You got that right. But only women can be pregnant. It is correct to say "they are expecting a baby," which acknowledges both the mother and father's roles in it. But to say "they are pregnant" is just incorrect. Somebody said it a long time ago because they though it was cute/funny; well it was, but only the first time it was said. Now it's just annoying and incorrect.

kanonymous said...

"I hate this idea that every unplanned pregnancy means the woman is golddigger."

I agree. No one but the pregnant woman knows whether she was on birth control or not, so it's not for us to judge. Yes, Tom and Giselle make more money than Bridget, but she's not exactly in the poor house.

kanonymous said...

"I guess people are not familiar with the type of woman that she is. Sugar coating poison."

Ayesha, do you know her personally?

Judi said...

G is step-mom, thus a friend, not a parent, to this child.

Leila said...

The "someone else delivered him" comment makes it sound like Gisele is planning to adopt him, and will send Bridget a nice thank you card for "delivering" Gisele's child for her. "I want him to have a great relationship with his mom" makes it sound like that is something in her (and Tom's) power to preserve - like how you want you child (who you have custody over) to have a good relationship to have a "good relationship" with the noncustodial parent (i.e., like Kfed says about Britney, now that she doesn't have custody).

I understand the English as second language thing, but these comments seem to be diminishing Bridget's role. If I was Bridget, I'd be getting concerned about a custody battle.

Priscila said...

Well, i am brazilian, and i can say that by this time her english is better than her portugese. That is exactly her way of speaking, she manages to say something nice and sweet that can sound a little offensive too. There is nothing to do with her not being english native speaker, it is just her style of speaking.

She comes from a big family, so she helped raise a few siblings and i guess she is also very competitive because of that. She has german ancestry mixed with some good brazilian qualities, and both cultures put great emphasis in family life.

As i recall, Tom and Bridget broke up before he met Giselle. She even said that she would never date a committed man because she was not a slut, but i think people make this confusion because they were serious really fast * wich happens when you find your true love( and people assumed she would dump him as soon as she heard the news about the pregnancy. The whole ting about Bridget not giving the father=s name to the baby was a little immature, but we have to admit everyone in the story is doing their best.

Mexi said...

Judi, I disagree. Step-parents are parents. They help in raising the child so I'd say they are more a parent than a friend.