Monday, September 15, 2008
To all the guys who are reading this. Let me give you a piece of advice when it comes to engagements. Having been through about 13, with six going the distance, I know of which I speak. Now, I'm not counting the engagements where you meet some woman in a bar and around closing time she says she is saving it for her wedding night and you ask her to marry you. That doesn't count and in no way matters to what I am about to say.
Jennifer Hudson got engaged on her birthday Friday and I am incredibly happy for her. On the other hand, after the glow of Friday's engagement wore off, I'm sure she woke up Saturday morning and asked herself, "did he not buy me a present?"
See, a guy will often think he is making a good decision by proposing on a woman's birthday. Nope, not a good idea. You think she is going to be happy with just the ring. Ummm, no. See, that isn't how it works. See, if you are going to marry her, she would have got the engagement ring anyway. If you had picked last week to give it to her, she would have got a birthday gift this week. You wouldn't have said, "hey, I just spent $10,000 on you for that ring last week, so I thought I was good."
See, I bet he didn't get her anything, and she probably didn't realize it until she woke up the next day. But, I guarantee you that she started reminding him right that second. A nice poke to the ribs and asking where he put it so she could open it, and him saying "f**k, you have got to be kidding. I just spent $10,000 on her last night."
In addition, you have now forever combined her birthday with engagement. Not really a good thing. I know guys we would love if weddings, birthdays and all days we needed to remember were on just one easy day to remember. We could then get it tattooed, and just refer to it to make sure on when we need to get things done. However, for some reason, just as you would hate it if your birthday were December 24 or 25th, most women do not find it fun to have their wedding, birthday and Valentines Day/Mother's Day to be the same day. They want multiple days.
So, David Otunga, as you move forward in your engagement with Jennifer, I do hope you keep these things in mind as you schedule that wedding day.