Monday, October 13, 2014

Your Turn

John Luke Robertson of Duck Dynasty announced he got engaged on his 19th birthday. What age do you think is the right age to get engaged or married or does it just not matter?

27 comments:

All Lace no Leather said...

It depends on the person and their maturity level, but I would say generally the later the better. Late 20s/early 30s.

Sugar said...

Why would I care when someone else gets married?

sandybrook said...

When you can afford to be engaged and then married and when you are mature enuff to handle it.

bette said...

It kind of depends. I got married when I was 20 because we had already been together for 5 years...it was pretty clear we were in it for the long haul, so that's how we did it. We've been together for 20 years by now, and we're still very in love. But that was just us...there was a huge wave of divorces around us when people turned 23. So, getting married so young for them was a bad idea.

Lady Heisenberg said...

People seem to be all about those "starter marriages" these days anyways. I am still laughing over a Cosmo article about this phenomenon and how young divorced men coming out of starter marriages are still good marriage material because they are only "slightly used" SMFH

Henriette said...

I say over 30 for most people, especially in the U.S. where immaturity is encouraged for so long.

Dena said...

25+

Its just U said...

What Lady H said. Most people don't stay married for life anymore, let alone a very young reality TV person.

clearly4you said...

Never

Tina Mallette said...

I would say waiting until at least 25 is a good idea because I know how from personal experience that you change a lot from age 19 and 25 esp being out in the real world for a few years at least until you know for sure exactly what you want and to get settled job wise and career wise before making big decisions like marriage and kids. You also may not know what kind of person will make you happy unless you play the field.,

On the other hand I know lot of couples that were high school sweet hearts, got married right out of high school and are still married but then people took marriage more seriously and worked at it, divorce was still a social stigma when I was younger.

auntliddy said...

Of course miss tina is right.

auntliddy said...

Plus young people in these restrictive religions are so sexually frustrated they get married to have sex!

Kelly said...

So true liddy!

skippy said...

The older the better.
Marriage is hard y'all ;)

Unknown said...

Agree agree agree w/ Liddy!!

Most definitely NOT in your teens NOR early 20's. If I would have married my boyfriend of 7 years (together from age 18-24) -- we would have been long divorced by now. We were very compatible during college, but once I hit 24 -- I was ready for more out of life - not marriage or anything, but I wanted to pursue my career in journalism, plus I was bored & over the "partying." We just didn't mesh anymore...I was ready to grow up and he wasn't. In fact, from what I hear, he's still in that partying stage...20+ years later.

I ended up marrying my best friend at age 30 -- (Which is kinda funny actually because we had made a pact earlier in our lives that if neither of us were married by 35 - seemed so old when you're young - we'd get married). One night after our weekly dinner together he gave me a hug and said I love you - something we've always done - but this time, I got butterflies. Freaked me out!!!! In the end it worked out. [=

Gosh I'm getting goose bumps just thinking about it. Anyway, long story short: Do NOT get married before 25 years of age!!

Unknown said...

Agree w/ Tina Mallette. (sorry Tina, I was typing so fast in my above post w/o proofing, I thought I had your name in there too).

Unknown said...

After one gets an education or experienced living independently and experience life single. I grew up in a church where if a girl isn't married by 20 she may feel like something is wrong with her. Ridiculous!

Lo Key says stop with the censorship already! said...

Got married a week before my 20th birthday this a man I'd been dating less than a year. We just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary. *shrugs* there is no "right" or "wrong" answer to this question.

FYI- I was NOT pregnant, in case you're wondering. Nor was he.

Glitter said...

I got married at 18. I already had 1 year of college and now nearly 40 years later, we are still together. My son is 27 and he is nowhere near ready to get married. Oh, I was not pregnant, either!

Blasie said...

In my opinion, people should not get married until they have found their carrier path. That can happen at any age. They should also have some financial security. The idea of spending a fortune on a wedding is insane...thousands of dollars for a dress worn once that in no way reflects your lifestyle makes no sense. No one should start their adult life with that kind of debt. Even if it doesn't create debt the money could be handled better. Most second marriages happen between people who know each other through their line of work where they get to observe each other for extended periods in non-dating situations, similar to going to the same school, but now they're in the same field of interest. This way couples are better able to understand and support each other.

auntliddy said...

Glitter and low-your not pregnant disclaimers reminded me that everyone thought I was pregnant when i got married after i just turned 20. I met uncleliddy on halloween, we decided to marry on valentines day, and married the day after i graduated college. I didnt have a wedding or reception because we didnt care about that, just drive to courthouse- which further fueled the speculation, lol. 44 years later we still together:). Oh, and when i got married i wasnt married! Lolololol

Blasie said...

I was married in 1973 after "dating" for 2 years. People didn't live together beforehand and even with weekend sleepovers it wasn't possible to realize how out of sync our diurnal cycles were. eg. we lived 150mi. north of NYC and frequently had to go there for business, 2.5hr. train ride departing at 6:30am. I was a zombie and could barely string two words together and slept the whole way. He drank coffee went over his notes and read the NYTimes. On the late afternoon trip home I was chatty and wired and he slept the whole way. He was a lawyer for bridge, road and commercial building contractors and I was a buyer for retail stores. He was able to plow through technical specifications that were bound in volumes that were several inches thick and I was distracted by shiny objects while looking for the next big thing. We divorced when our youngest left for college, but the relationship ended many years before that. He remarried 8 weeks after the decree to a she-lawyer 15yrs younger no kids.

Anonymous said...

Well, you should probably at least wait until your brain's decision making centers are fully developed to actually marry, in my estimation. So mid-20s (ard 25) minimum.

If you've found the right person there's no need to rush, they shouldn't be going anywhere. So unless you're going off to war or need a green card or something, take your time.

Unknown said...

lived with my husband 8yrs. engaged at 36 (after almost 7 years together) married at 38 (3 months ago). i agree- NO NEED TO RUSH FOREVER. this is your life, you need to THINK about this.
we also have a prenup (my idea, even though he is way more successful, i do have 2 other businesses and doing fine myself)...this IS the way to go, dont rush ever.

OKay said...

DEFINITELY 25+. Mr. Kay was 21 when we met, but we waited four years (and lived together the whole time, first as roommates) before getting married. I'm a bit older than he is. I was first married at 18. Not pregnant, just stupid. So I was in no rush to put a(nother) ring on it either. But when it's right, it's right.

Unknown said...

Sandy jade: I experienced that too. Grew up as pentecostal pastor's daughter. Went to uni so was considered a career driven spinster at 22. They get horny, marry young and with abandon., then have to live with it, unhappily ever after. You need to be sexually compatible; hopefully with life experiences and other relationships, and live together to see if it is going to work.

Unknown said...

That's awesome LowKey. You're right. No rules, however a lot of young religious people are often in a hurry and live with expectation to marry young, stay virgins etc.

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