Tuesday, September 02, 2008

Show Some Respect


Look, whatever is going on between Lindsay Lohan and her dad has been brewing for years and years. Sure they got along for awhile when she got out of her most recent stay in rehab, but when she realized it was all about Michael, Michael, Michael and the money he could make from her, they drifted apart. Fine. Cool. Happens.

Because Michael enjoys hearing himself talk, and often runs out of anything useful to say, he ends up pissing people off when he continues to yammer. He did so last week and Lindsay got pissed. But, at the end of the week, when Michael's dad died, there appeared to be a little crack or sliver for some love to appear.

Nope. Here is where I take issue with Lindsay. Your grandfather had a funeral in New York. You were in New York. Maybe your grandfather and you were not close. Maybe he tried to always borrow money from you or coke or whatever. I don't know. Maybe you just decided you would stick it to your dad by not going to his dad's funeral. Fine. Your choice. Narrow minded and child like, but ok. I mean there is the possibility if you had gone that your dad would have sold the photos to a tabloid. But hey, at least he didn't ask you to contribute flowers.

So, if you are trying to get back at your dad, then do so, but do so with some respect for your grandfather, because without him, you wouldn't be walking the earth. If you want to stay at home while the funeral is going on, then by all means do so. If you and Sam are playing 101 Uses For A Hat, then by all means continue your game.

What isn't right, and what you did, is to go out shopping during the funeral, and let yourself get photographed laughing and giggling like you didn't have a care in the world. What you were basically saying is F**k you grandpa. I just don't think that is right. What kind of example are you setting for all those school kids who always run up to you because of the Disney films? Are you telling them to stick it to their grandfather also?

Look, it is your life, and your lessons to learn, but this one was about as low as you can go.

25 comments:

Sydney said...

She wasn't close to her paternal grandfather. I don't think it's necessary to go to someone's funeral just because they are related to you, especially if you did not have a good relationship with them.

Anonymous said...

I agree w/ sydney.

but more than that, going or not going doesn't mean she's a bad granddaughter. funerals are for the living and not the dead.

frankly, if I was in the same position she is w/ her dad I probably wouldn't have gone either.

jax said...

i agree Sydney...but when you are in the same city and friviously shopping for nothing you can afford anymore anyway...it looks petty, immature and pretty gross.

one day Lilo is going to regret that. when my grampa passed away it was on the other side of the country and i didn't go...i regret that sometimes and i loved the old guy.

shazzzba said...

LOOK WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE, SO YOU GO TO THE SERVICE AND LEAVE, NO GRAVESIDE, NO FAMILY BONDING....BUT YOU SHOW YOUR FACE....ESPECIALLY SINCE YOU'RE IN TOWN...NO EXCUSE....GROW UP...

Cheryl said...

I loved my husband's grandmother as much as I loved my own, but we did not attend her funeral. We visited a day before she died and we chose to honor her in our own way because we did not want to be a part of the family drama and wished to avoid arguments.

I'm not a Lindsay fan or a hater. I'm just not willing to judge her on this one.

Mooshki said...

As Enty clearly says, fine, don't go to the funeral, but stay home for god's sake! If anyone should know how important appearances can be, it's LiLo.

not a famous adrian said...

did her sister or brothers attend??
I would be curious if anyone showed any respect.

Ayesha said...

Agree with sydney et al. I have skipped the funerals of family members I hated or wasn't close to. Why be a hypocrite? And I wouldn't want someone at MY funeral who wasn't close to or didn't like ME.

If she were really close to her grandfather, she would have attended.

notachance said...

Appearances are everything, and that is precisely why she went shopping - to show daddy just how much she hates him - grandpa had nothing to do with it.

Someday, if she ever has children of her own she may regret that decision. Those things come back to you whether you think they will or not. Karma.

JessieE said...

Yep, sorry Enty, not with you on this one. Funerals are about those left, not the dead. Michael Lohan may need a swift kick in the pants, and I say Lindsay's entitled to give it to him however she wants. She'll make her peace with herself over her grandfather's death however she decides to -- not showing up where her father is hoping for a paparazzi-fest is A-OK with me.

not on my dollar said...

Lindsey's grandfather could haver treated her like crap when he was healthy and she was just waiting for the opportunity to return the favor.

I for one know first hand that blood is definitely not thicker than water.

Without enough information this is one situation that no one can really speculate and judge.

Lisa said...

Hey Enty, perhaps Lindsay was buying Tater Head Willis a little something she needs, like a new hat,or a new personality, or A NEW FACE Ha! That would be okay then right?

Kid Chicago said...

Geez, you're so weird about funerals. She wasn't "sticking it to him," she just chose not to go. You're also implying that she should be weighed down with grief, or at least pretend to be because that's the polite thing to do, right?

Pretending to be upset when you're not is more offensive than missing the funeral in the first place.

Anonymous said...

She's fine... she spent the day with her number one priority: Herself.

cinephan said...

I totally think it depends on what their relationship was. My grandmother was an evil bitch and the only reason I might have thought about going to her funeral was to make sure she was finally dead. I was not about to travel several hundred miles to pay her any respect. Plus, I hate funerals in general. I didn't understand the hostility toward the living Golden Girls for not going to Estelle Getty's funeral. Some people don't like them. They'd rather appreciate the person when they're alive than go spend however many hours in a room of sobbing people.

sillyme said...

She should have made an appearance at the funeral. Enty summed it up well.

eileen said...

I think you're on point. Don't go, your choice. Go out shopping for all the world to see, hurtful to the entire paternal side of the family probably.

juicy said...

Maybe out of respect for her grandfather and family she didn't want to make the funeral all about HER. It would have turned into a pap fest with her there.

Silas said...

I'd much rather see images of Lindsay shopping and laughing on the day of her paternal grandfather's funeral than to hear Michael Lohan bitching and moaning about her not showing up the funeral for the next month.

We already know she's not that close with Michael's side of the family and for all we know, a actual RATIONAL person on that side of the family may have had the forethought to ask her to stay away and just send flowers, lest Michael make the whole funeral into a spectacle for the paps.

Getting photo'd laughing and shopping also diminishes the number of "Michael Bans Lindsay from Family Funeral (because of her lesbian relationship with SamRo)" articles in the tabs for 3 weeks...

brendalove@gmail.com said...

She's probably afraid that if she saw her dad, she would kick his ass. Much better to stay away

redgurl72 said...

Maybe she has good reason to be giving the Grandad and her Dad the finger. We'll never know how messed up that family is. Sorry Enty, not going to judge her on this one.

Local Tourist said...

I agree with Enty on this one. If she didn't want to go, she still shouldn't have been pictured nearby laughing and shopping. That's a slap in the face to anyone else she might have been close to like her grandmother, an aunt, or an uncle. I know families that are way more dysfunctional and they still attended each other's funerals. If this family ends up fixing their problems, she will regret this.

sauvage said...

I'm with the people here who think funerals are for the living, not the dead. (I almost produced the typo "not for the dad"...)

Lindsay and her grandfather weren't close, maybe hadn't seen each other in years, and can you imagine the emotional stress it would have put Lindsay through to GO THERE AND HAVE TO FACE HER FATHER? Who would have hugged her just for the photographers not to miss his lonely, mourning, money-loving sh*tface? You can be SURE he would have tipped off the paparazzi about Lindsay being there.

So give the girl a break. Her family is highly dysfunctional, she was an addict not to long ago and all her parents ever cared about was how much money they could make out of her. So pardon if she stopped feeding them her soul.

gillian said...

someone mentioned Taterhead Willis- well, have you guys seen the middle daughter lately (Tallulah or Scout? Can't remember)? Poor Rumer must hate her, becauuse the genes mixed together well for middle sis--not so much for her ;-(

as for Lilo- are we really expecting that level of sensitivity and thought from this girl? I honestly don't think the thought even occurred to her, or anyone else in her crew. Plus, the only thing keeping her 'relevant' is this lesbian relationship (over it. SamRo is ill looking and absolutely ruining the appeal of fedoras, much as I love them)- she's going to flaunt that until the agents phone starts ringing again

DetroitRocker said...

My father lived out of state with his new wife and children. I decided that I wanted to be with my father when he was alive not dead. My husband and I went there and spent a week with my father. Then when he was hospitalized, I flew in and spent a week with him before he died. Two weeks after I got home my father died.

I was not close with my fathers new wife, or her children. I think they were glad that we did not go to the funeral. There was a lot of bad feelings because my mom and dad still saw each other through the years. One of those can't live with each other, but can't live without each other. Anyways our family held our own service with our family for my father.

I know that some people that attended the funeral thought that was strange, but it was a very emotional and personal thing. My father knew we loved him, not his wife or her children from another marriage. What I am trying to say is that we all grieve in our own way. Some of us are more private in our grieving.

Myself I could not care if anyone showed up at my funeral, as long as they love me when I am ALIVE.

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