Thursday, July 18, 2013

Cory Monteith's Father Not Invited To Cremation

Cory Monteith and his father did not really get along. Cory's parents were divorced when he was seven and he was raised by his mother. His father was in the military so was often absent from his son's life. That being said, I think it would have been the proper thing to invite him to the cremation. The other side of that is that he immediately sold the story that he had not been invited so maybe they knew what they were doing by not inviting the guy. the last thing you need him to be doing is causing a scene or trying to take photos he is going to sell to a tabloid. Yeah, there would be someone out there who would buy them. Cory's father said he only found out about the cremation after it had happened.

36 comments:

auntliddy said...

Totally family business. None of us know the dynamics.

Sherry R. said...

My first thought was that he was cremated so soon was to eliminate the possibility of pictures been taken. Those dead pictures end up on the internet for eternity, so to speak (findadeath.com).

Better that the mom is happy over how it was done then the dad adding to her pain. He sounds like a real gem.

amused bush said...

I understand this, sad to say, but I wouldn't want my "father" at my funeral either. Why? I have no relationship with him and think he is a douche.

Perhaps this is just a sad consequence of him being a non-parent post-divorce.

surfer said...

Wow - that a bit presumptuous assuming he would sell pictures. Whatever the family situation, Cory was still his son, and should have been included. I read there was a private family viewing at the hospital. And by private, the only people there (supposedly) were Cory's mom, brother and Lea.

Ann Nah Nah Mess said...

We've got the Lindsay, Kardashian, and Cory posts covered for today. Waiting patiently for Beiber. WHERE IS MY BEIBER POST GODDAMMIT?!?

Kels said...

I'm always torn when it comes to fathers. Dont get how you can have a kid and just abandon them... I feel the pain. One question: What was so damn important? The military? Smh.

auntliddy said...

Just to add: we sll see family stuff of others go down and we dont understand. Trust me, they have their reasons. We have in our family someone who will befriend new member, call them, do favors etc. we try to nicely warn them but he/she thinks we are mean. A few months later, your bunny is missing, theres a huge boiling pot on your stove, and this person is angry with you over percieved slight. Like you didnt call her first when babys tooth fell out or something dopey like that. So i dont jusge other families at all.

figgy said...

Oh boo fucking hoo, if he was a shitty father when they were kids he doesn't get to enjoy his children as adults either.

oh, and...who the hell goes to a cremation?? I've had several family members cremated, and they weren't exactly anything we attended. Crikey.

Ja'mie King said...

People have always been able to attend cremations, its just not that common. It is very private and can be a peaceful way to say goodbye.

Molls said...

Sounds like another Michael Lohan. If he wasn't present in his son's life, why would he want to be at the funeral/cremation.

Kelly said...

I'm sure his mother knew best about this and did the right thing. Just because he was his father does not make him his dad.

missKWyumyum said...

@Kels sometimes it's the moms that abandon the kids. Mine decided she wasn't into the whole family-thing anymore so she moved out when I was seven and she wonders why at the age of 33 I have no desire to see her

Anotheramy said...

It always makes me cringe when someone goes public with a complaint like this. Why is this man making trying to make his sons death about him? Its a good look into his character.

Zeeky_Boogy_Doog said...

Considering how young Cory was when he started acting out and using, it's possible the father was a contributing factor. So often it's abuse by an authority figure, parent or other relative that starts the spiral. I hate speculating, but I just wonder what happened to Cory to make him get so out of control as a kid.

DontRainOnMyPrada said...

His father is a complete famewhore and only got back in touch w him after he became famous on glee. If you google the father you'll find he gave an interview to some canadian publication during the first or second year of glee, and it was obvious he knew very little of substance about his son.

Kels said...

I understand: they always come back like they have some rights! "But I'm your mother!" well ok mom, you should have been a mother if you want to be treated like one!

But where I'm from, it's always the mom that sticks around. It's a real issue with black people. Most of my friends and family were raised by single moms. I literally do not know what it is like to see a two parent household. Shame.

Silly Girl said...

None of us know the family dynamics, and none of us are in a place to call right vs. wrong. We can only speculate as to what we would do if we were in that situation. He's the boy's father, that's a fact. We don't know what any of these relationships were like. Bottom line, a father lost a son, and he has the right to grieve any way he wants to. If he wanted to see his son, he should have been able to. It's still HIS loss and one he has to deal with the rest of his life.

MichaelaK said...

I think it would have been the proper thing

That's always what people who have no idea what they're talking about say about these situations. So what if your father was a raging alcoholic who beat your mother and terrorized your family nightly? It's only proper that he give you away at your wedding. Your mother was a drug addict who tried to prostitute you before you were taken away by the state and you grew up in foster homes? Letting her see her grandchildren is the proper thing to do.

I have friends in both of those situations and you have no idea how painful it is when people on the outside looking make those judgmental statements. His dad, as Prada pointed out, was a famewhore who didn't care about his until his son was famous and didn't give a crap about the cremation until he found out he wasn't invited. It's only proper he be ignored.

DontRainOnMyPrada said...

@sillygirl if you read that article I mentioned, you'll see plenty of evidence that will allow you to draw some conclusions about their relationship (or lack thereof).

Silly Girl said...

@Prada, it's still his child. The rest is speculation. And yes, I'm still saying that, because none of us really know what those dynamics were. It could have been all just a big PR stunt(shocker) to gain attention. Who knows? That's my point. It's still his child.

marie-ski said...

It was a viewing before the funeral, dumbass. You think they just stood around and wathed him burn in the fire?

Cornbread said...

Dealing with family can be a bitch, regardless of the situation. To each his own.

cece said...

This, totally.

Glitter said...

Is it known that he sold the story?

Anonymous said...

well he looks like a completely nice fuzzy, friendly guy, I wonder why not? More like Russell Crowe's long lost older brother.

twisted.peppermint said...

What he looks like has nothing to do with it.

8====D KermitGossnellKnobjob said...

Cremation of a boozer? The fire will be on for weeks.

NaughtyNurse said...

I wouldn't want my father at my funeral. Not my place to judge that family's choice.

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Hegg said...

It's NEVER right to do this. So what if they didn't see eye to eye? I'm sure his Dad loved him just as much as his Mom.

April said...

Having this same situation with my mother, who I've only met once, I wouldn't judge his family too harshly. They might have tried and failed to contact the man. If I absolutely had to get a hold mother right now, I wouldn't know where to start. And, honestly, I'm not sure I'd want her at my funeral. I know that seems harsh to say, but she's less of a mother to me than an egg donor.

Penny Lane said...

I've seen my mother about 5 times since I was 11 (I'm 29 now) she's never met my children and has told people she regrets having me and she only had me because my Dad wanted me.I wouldn't want her at my funeral.She hasn't contributed to my life and the idea of my loved ones having to see her there doesnt sit well with me.I actually had to seriously consider then when I had cancer (I'm in remission) and planned all this stuff.

It is confronting and hard for people to hear,but I'm 100% okay with my choice.

Penny Lane said...

I've seen my mother about 5 times since I was 11 (I'm 29 now) she's never met my children and has told people she regrets having me and she only had me because my Dad wanted me.I wouldn't want her at my funeral.She hasn't contributed to my life and the idea of my loved ones having to see her there doesnt sit well with me.I actually had to seriously consider then when I had cancer (I'm in remission) and planned all this stuff.

It is confronting and hard for people to hear,but I'm 100% okay with my choice.

lovelylunacy said...

I have a parent I'd never want at my funeral. I want people who I'm close to who loves me there. Not some dude that would sell the story.

Bit dams said...

i'm guessing it was more like, "he's already been cremated. DON'T COME". between the lines: you were never here when he needed you, so you aren't going to get to wrap this up and put a bow on it now/fuck you.

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