Your Turn
Isabeli Fontana and Rohan Marley announced they are getting married. First of all Isabeli is 28 and this is going to be marriage #3 so she is well on her way to a good half dozen or more marriages. Anyway, Isabeli brings two children into the marriage while Rohan brings 7. So, a total of 9 kids. My question to you is if you were to get married how many kids is too many for bringing in to a marriage or relationship? 9 seems like a bunch. The Brady Bunch was only 6. Plus you know they are going to have more.
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Three marriages and only 38? Wow.
One child is too many.
Good for them, dude. As long as their loving parents with the financial means to support them, I say go for it.
Poor Lauryn Hill, she is about to go off the deep end yet again. This asshole knocks her up several times over, robs her blind, doesn't put a ring on it and to add insult to injury goes off and marries some white chick. But to be fair, she could have dumped his ass after baby #1 but still DAMNNNNN
My husband and I have 5 kids between us, ranging in age 8 - 26. The older 3 (15, 23, 26) are his, and the 8 and 11 are mine.
This is a huge family, I can tell you. Even though the 26 doesn't live at home, and the 15 is with us only on weekends, I find the work of managing all of the relationships and meeting everyone's needs to be enormous. I feel we are keeping it together with all the kids, but it's tough.
If we were younger we might have had 1 together. I would say 6 is my max, but that's just me.
Meh. Love is love and so long as the children can be properly loved and cared for (Looking at you Octo...) there should be no limit.
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I iz smarht.
@Vicki 3 marriages and only TWENTY eight. Even better, right? ;)
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Lauren Hill is schizophrenic and has gone off the deep end pretty much since Fugees broke up.
I reserve judgement on anyone who was involved with someone as emotionally disturbed as Hill. It could not be easy and we don't know what went down in the end.
it takes two to tango, pretty sure you don't get knocked up on your own.
RenoBlondee said...
@Vicki 3 marriages and only TWENTY eight. Even better, right? ;)
Lol, dammit! I was thinking it looked weird. I'm distracted thinking of the 38 ways I want to violate Jeremy Renner.
Whoo boy. This guy was such a prick to Lauryn Hill, I don't see how any other woman could marry him knowing what he did to her.
But uh...honestly, I think even bringing 1 kid to a marriage is too much. I would never ever date a guy with kids. Ever. Now watch this jinx me & somehow I will lose my husband and never find another man because I have a kid aahhhhhh.
I was raised with a stepdad & 2 stepbrothers whose mission in life was to make me miserable, I tried to kill myself at 12 because of it. This is probably why I'm so against it.
If he has kids who respect him, then there is no number.
I could not deal with mama drama, so to me, the situation with the ex would be more important.
I know this from watching Judge Judy, not from experience.
What's that saying?
If at first you don't succeed try TRY again
I don't think this applies to marriage(s).
@seaward, I sympathize. But I had terrible relationships with my natural full siblings! And father!
I feel it's my job as mom and stepmom to make sure all children have unfettered access to all parents, and that everyone respects each other. I feel fortunate all of the kids get along so well together. If there were problems, you can bet I'd get everyone to therapy.
I want a boyfriend named Rohan. How cool is that?
I had a yours, mine and ours family at one time and being a step parent was a very, very difficult role in my life. Like Doc said, it's very hard to keep up with everyone's needs.
BUT, these are famous folks here and I would assume they've got the funds for nannies to take care of the kiddos. Good luck to 'em and I hope they keep an eye out for Lauryn.
marriage: no
dating someone with kids: no
letting anyone even meet my kids; hell no
i'm damaged. different for me. i look at this senerio and think; 3 years tops.
This is an unfortunate looking man. Standing next to her, the situation only worsens. All I can say is wow.
Even being a step parent to adult children is no trip to the beach. Being a step parent is so much work, I couldn't have done it if they were minor children. But at least I knew that and didn't get involved with men with small children.
I was a step-parent and in a not so great marriage. I know it's different for some people, but I had all the work and no say in my situation. I would strongly caution anyone without children marrying someone with children. Too much baggage - you acquire a whole bunch of extra people. Yes, you will have to hang with the ex, her family, your in laws and the way they act with the exs family... Fair to say I'm glad I'm out, for the most part, but I can't escape them totally. They are my childrens 1/2 siblings.
I don't think there is a set number - if you love each other and you have the time and patience (and, well, money) for all those children, great. For me, I would probably have to draw the line at a much lower number...*L*
I don't know or care who she is and I assume he's another family member of Bob Marley making a living off his poor, dead name.
I don't think there's any set number of children when it comes to being in a relationship with someone. There are too many factors: ages, relationships, what are the different parenting styles, who is involved with the kids, who has custody at what time, can everyone's needs be met, etc. I've seen people do a really great job with blended families, even really large ones, with exes getting along and everyone doing great. I've also seen people do horribly at it, even with only one step child. For a couple with this much baggage? Eh. Only time will tell.
After my divorce, I never even entertained the idea of remarrying, mostly for the reason that I didn't want to blend families. I didn't even want a stepdad for my kids. I figured the kids needed to be first for me, which would be unfair to the new husband, and vice versa, and I just didn't want to go there. So I guess my answer is zero. Zero is too many kids to add to my family.
Provided they were adults and permanently in their own homes, I could handle 2 or 3. If they were going to be living with or visiting their parent and staying over, my vote is none.
Ya .. I don't see this ending well. 28 and three marriages. Not a ton of stability there. And him? No comment.
Live together .. use several kinds of birth control and enjoy the kids you already have.
Frankly, the two kids I already have are too much many days.
I have no idea who she is. I am seriously out of the gossip loop, it seems. After only three months!
Ooh, I bet Lauryn will not be sweet during the kid exchanges
this thread is interesting. its 'funny' to see how we all have 'funny' family dynamics. cheers!
I hadn't realised the guy was hill's babydady. from what ive read he's a real catch. But anyway, its their decisicion, plus I dont understand how can you make it to 28 with 2 marriages under your belt (hi, im 28 and I feel like a total baby :P)
Unbelievable! She's incredibly gorgeous and used to date/marry two super hot guys. What happened???
Posture, Rohan!
My mother was widowed and I briefly had a stepfather before my mother was widowed a second time. My memories are favorable but everyone experience will very.
As to the max number of kids I don't know. I can only point to the real life Beardsley portrayed in "Yours, Mine, and Ours" which had 18 children. Granted the parents had both been widowed and the lack of ex's made things easier.
Have to agree with Vicki and Me. Those poor kids. We're not talking widows here.
@Liz: So...you're saying all someone needs to have a successful relationship is to be hot and have a hot mate? I think evidence proves that's not true. Fortunately for me and my honey!
I don't think I could handle more than 3 or 4 total. I guess it would depend on the person, financial situation and if you had help available. I would lose my shit with 9 kids.
good luck Isabeli-- it's true Lauryn Hill is sadly batsh*t and needs help, but Rohan is a piece of work himself. Ask anyone who went to high school with him. Massive tool. Entitled beyond belief, thinks he's the second coming/above normal people, and to top it all off doesn't have the cashflow to back up his ridiculousness-- Bob Marley had lots of kids, Rohan is a later child he had with a not wife, his estate payout is not enormous. He totally used LH financially and I'm sure still does. I nearly 100% doubt he has changed. So... the clocks ticking before 1) they get pregnant if not already 2) he cheats if he hasn't already and 3) divorce. mavel tov kids.
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