Thursday, January 05, 2012

A Rejected Proposal That Was Real

Whenever you see engagement proposals that are rejected you have to ask yourself if they were real to begin with. Almost everytime they are fake. This time however, the proposal was not staged, and this guy goes from getting a kiss to getting rejected in front of an entire arena. It is one thing if you are doing it as an acting job and another to think you have the greatest idea ever and then get rejected in front of everyone. That has to be crushing. I know being crushed. In my world of six marriages, there have been an additional five or six marriage proposals, including several where I was told flat out, "no," or "I just met you. Stop following me into the bathroom." My favorite rejection was, "If you want to spend more time with me, it is going to be an extra $20." So, looking back, maybe not as crushed as this guy, but we all have our own levels of pain tolerance.

51 comments:

Rita said...

That was a bit painful to watch. The horror on her face though says it all: WTF are you thinking?

And Enty, at least your goddess was charging you an extra $20, while Charlie Sheen's were charging him and extra 100K! Count yourself lucky dude.

EmEyeKay said...

Feel all kinds of bad for that guy. Also don't like the way she was looking at the ring. Was it not big enough? Or maybe she kept looking at the ring so she didn't have to look at the guy?

Little Miss Smoke and Mirrors said...

Ouch!

DixieTheNoble82 said...

It is painful to watch but at least she didn't say yes. If she isn't feeling it - for whatever reason - at least she said no. She would of done the guy MORE of a disservice by marrying him or even just saying 'yes' when she had doubts.

Comma Chaser said...

Feel sad for the guy.

Alternately, the glibness of the woman holding the microphone is kinda funny. The way she is smacking her gum after he just got rejected is so very SoCal. Yes, we know, "...it happens."

Doc Girl said...

I thought the announcer did a good job of smoothing it over. I don't know what I would have said if I were her!

DixieTheNoble82 said...

^LoL, did you notice also how the woman being proposed to has to move this lady's arm out of the way?

flip said...

I still believe this was an acting class assignment. If it happened in any other city I wouldn't be so skeptical, but this is kind of a classic homework assignment.

Also, note to future proposers - don't do it in a sports venue. Unless your intended is a rabid fan who wants one of your most intimate moments as a couple to be publicly blasted, it's just not romantic.

RJ said...

I'd have probably said yes then, just to have avoided the mother of all awkward moments, and then broken it off in private when we got back home. If I had any feelings for the guy at all, I'd have spared him that public embarassment.

swedishfish said...

Agree with RJ. I'd try not to make him look like a total fool; I'd go along with it for JUST A MOMENT, and wait til the cameras were off to say, "What were you thinking?" Seriously. Bad idea.

Redheat said...

No doubt a cringe worthy moment. I agree that upon viewing this, one would think that saying yes to at least spare him that moment would have been the nice thing to do. However, having a strong aversion to anything marriage related, I can see how it may have stunned and scared her to a point where she just wanted to dislocate from the entire situation.

yourfaceisamess said...

fake.

BrandieMarie said...

Yea, this is like the worst way to propose. I told my now husband if he did anything remotely close to that, I'd say yes so not to embarrass myself or him, but as soon as we got in the car to go home i'd be like "you know the answer is no, right". I would just hate the "all eyes on me" feeling.

Public proposals like that only work if you 100% know she will say yes. Like if you shopped for the ring together, etc. and she's on board, just doesn't know exactly when the proposal is coming.

Sevenmack said...

I feel bad for the guy. But this is also why you should be having discussions about marriage with your significant other before you propose. If she doesn't want to get married (either at that time or ever), then you have at least saved yourself some embarrassment. And you can also mull whether you want to spend any more time with a woman who isn't interested in committing for life with you.

Bridget said...

Before we were engaged, I told my fiance that if he proposed in a public place for all the world to see, I would say no. He was good and proposed in a photo booth :)

Rita said...

@Bridget, that's cute:)

Wonder what went through his head, and if there were mixed signals. I mean, it's an arena, not a reality showmance! The guy must've known what he was doing... Right?

Sherry said...

I think it's fake. And I HAVE said yes just to not ruin the moment knowing I would never marry that person.

Sevenmack said...

@Rita: If it is real, then no, he apparently didn't know what he was doing or had any sort of discussions with her about what their future together would look like (or if there was any future in the first place). Not exactly shocking. I have had a number of friends who have proposed to girlfriends without having figured anything out -- and ended up being rejected. Fortunately for them, the eyes of entire arenas weren't on them when the rejection came down.

The other part, as Bridget points out, is that a lot of people just don't like the idea of such a private occasion as a marriage proposal being done in public. My wife would have punched me (and left me never to chat with me again) if I had attempted a public proposal. So I proposed to her after a candlelight dinner at home on New Year's Eve.

Lelaina Pierce said...

I'm not sure if this is real...she was smiling when she walked away!?!

But this shy girl HATES public proposals!

Did their really need to be an announcer there for the "Mistletoe Cam"?? Really?

Sylvia said...

That was awkward, I do feel bad for the guy but than again he caught her unexpected and probably she was not ready for marriage.

Rita said...

@Sevenmack - Am liking your wife very much;)

Worstcompanytoworkfor said...

She should say yes so to not embarrass the guy, then later on tell him HELL NO!

MISCH said...

Poor guy, but a proposal is a very private moment...I wouldn't be happy to be asked that way.

Sue Ellen Mishkey said...

When my fella was going to propose to me both my parents and his asked him if he was sure I'd say yes because, otherwise, that's a pretty big matzo ball hanging out there.

yolknkl; said...

a proposal should be a private moment. why he would want to do that in front of gazillions of people I don't quite get. I guess everyone wants to be a reality star.

DixieTheNoble82 said...

I just can't agree with saying yes to spare the guy, even if it's just for a moment. To me that seems even more wrong. You are going to crush him either way and shame on him for doing it so publicly if he couldn't take the answer - yes or no.

DixieTheNoble82 said...

Oh and @Bridget - that is adorable!! I hope you guys had those photos enlarged and framed!

HannahPalindrome said...

Fake!!!

His fake crying was sooooo fake!

Texshan said...

When I worked for the Astros, I always knew when we would be having a proposal that night because the Astrodome's announcer would spend all afternoon singing the Love Boat theme as loudly as possible. Luckily, they were all pre-arranged with the women, I guess, because we never had an awkward moment like this. How humiliating.

That being said, I'm not 100% sure this is for reals. I seem to remember a similar situation at a baseball game last year somewhere where it turned out to be fake.

Lioness70 said...

My husband proposed at my company's Christmas party. But it was a quiet moment when the two of us were playing pool. I would have been mortified if he asked me in front of all my coworkers!

BrandieMarie said...

@Dixie - I should clarify what I meant. My husband knew I wanted to get married. I meant I'd say yes to not embarrass myself, and by telling him the answer is no when we left doesn't mean definite no. I mean a do-over. Do it again when my face isn't burning with embarrassment and it can be special between us. I mean for me, I knew it was coming. We shopped for the ring together, so it was a done deal and he knew it.

So for me, I didn't mean say yes just to say it, and then break it off later for good. I just meant I'd want another PRIVATE proposal where we can really celebrate the commitment we were making. Not at a drunken ball game with 30,000 strangers.

Baka Neko said...

If this is real I don't feel bad for him. He should know if his girlfriend would want to marry him or if she would want a grand jester like that. There is nothing more annoying then putting someone in an awkward spot like that.

DixieTheNoble82 said...

@Bnl - I can definitely get on board for that scenario. That would be a very fair thing to do IMO.

Anonymous said...

I guess Im weird... I think a proposal at a sporting event would be.awesome with.awesome sauce...but then I LOVE sports, especially.Hockey

Bridget said...

Thanks everyone! He's a good guy :)

@Dixie-we do have the photos, but I'm not sure if I want to show them publicly-I'm totally doing the ugly cry in them lol. What was really cool is that the photo booth took a video, so we have that as well!

Rita said...

^That would be even better! I would consider an uggly cry the coolest proposal pictures ever! Add one to your avatar @bridget:)

RocketQueen said...

Thank you, flip. My boy proposed in mid-October in a spontaneous moment when he didn't even have the real ring yet...just the placeholder bauble. After I said yes, he said he had intended to wait til my birthday when we'd be at a Canucks game but got too excited and couldn't wait. I am SO glad he proposed prematurely. I would NOT have liked a Canucks game proposal. Not to mention my mom came to the game with us.

DixieTheNoble82 said...

@Bridget - I agree w/ @Rita! I really think that is one of the cutest proposals I've ever heard of.

@RQ - If this proposal was this past October then congratulations! If not, happy new year. :0]

RocketQueen said...

It was, Dixie! Thank you :)

hunter said...

If it's true then I go with RJ and swedishfish in saying Yes just to save the guy public humiliation.

Have thought about it and would probably do the same in a public setting like in Crocodile Dundee too.

Green Wave Gal said...

RQ's got all kinds of goodness happening...I'm living vicariously through her. ;)

J said...

That is a complete fake, hubs proposed to me in an art gallery in front of my favourite painting, was public but in an annex and he made sure there was noone around when he did it.

Maja With a J said...

I can't even watch it, I get so embarrassed...*L*

Green Wave Gal said...

I work at UCLA so I'll let you know if I hear anything once the students come back next week. :)

30whatsnext said...

Maybe that was date number 4 and the guy just jumped the gun. It has happened to me. Some guys are just as desperate as women.

The Black Cat said...

Humiliating, I would want to die if some guy had done that to me.

Anotheramy said...

I was thinking I would say yes and then back out too but, if I had only dated the guy a few times... I think I would say no and bail.

Interplanet Janet said...

Poor guy. :(

Henriette said...

I saw this on Yahoo, and hope this is the beginning of the end for this over-the-top proposals. I don't feel sorry for guy. It's extremely manipulative to do this to someone. Put a person in a position where he or she is almost forced to say "yes" to avoid looking like a prick.

As othe posters have stated, don't propose to someone if you're not a 99.9% sure he or she will say " yes." Anyone who is married or near an engagement knows where a relationship is going on some level.

Henriette said...

Oh we should do proposal stories!

My hubs proposed with a fortune cookie at the Legion of Honor in front of Rodin's The Artist and his Muse. It's my favorite Rodin and my favorite museum. I thought we were going to get in trouble because there is not eating and I kept saying,"put those (fortune cookies) away! Do you wanna get us kicked out?" It is still one of my favorite memories.

AKM said...

I can't figure out if this one is real or not. That said, I'm a pretty big sports fan, so I'm the girl who would LOVE a proposal like that! (And I'm pretty introverted and don't crave the spotlight. Go figure.)

But like so many have already said, these proposers have to be 100% certain that their partners will say yes! Yikes.

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